I guest frequently on radio programs, and some recent hosts have ask me to address the suicide of Robin Williams with the hope that I can comfort the many people who love that beautiful man. I love him, too. But I have little comfort to give to radio 
listeners, and I don’t plan to discuss his passing on my own weekly program, Seek Reality. The best news that the afterlife evidence offers to us about suicide is that it is not all bad news.
To understand why killing yourself never is a good idea, it is important to know a few basic things. Briefly:
1) The chance to learn on earth is a gift. We are told that there are many more people wanting to live an earth-life than there are bodies to accommodate them, and we who are here are the fortunate ones who were given this phenomenal opportunity.
2) We plan our lives. In close cooperation with our guides and with those who will be important in our lives and their guides, each of us writes a pre-birth plan. We cannot say for certain that every bad thing that happens in our lives is planned, but the evidence is strong that we eagerly plan to have bad things happen so we can grow spiritually. An easy life is like an easy gym session: it doesn’t build much spiritual muscle.
3) Each of us plans two or three possible exit points into our lives, and suicide never is one of them. As soon as we have gotten whatever spiritual growth can be wrung from this lifetime, our higher consciousness takes the next exit and we happily boogie outta here.
So, you can see the problem. We petitioned for the chance to come here, and we planned whatever lesson is making us think now that we would rather die than see it through. If we commit suicide, we land back in the Summerland and we face our post-death judgment phase while we are struggling with the horrible realization that we screwed up very badly.
God doesn’t judge us. No religious figure judges us, and that is bad news since perhaps a loving God would have compassion on us for our mistake in taking our own lives. Each of us is our own afterlife judge, and the evidence is strong that we judge ourselves ruthlessly. We know what we intended! We planned to have great spiritual growth come from whatever caused us to kill ourselves, and we entered this lifetime hungry for that growth. Instead, we threw our chance away. We blew it!
The way suicides handle their self-judgment seems to vary considerably:
1) Sub-adults forgive themselves easily. Children and people even into their twenties seem not to have trouble forgiving themselves, and they get tremendous loving support.
2) The old and the dying generally forgive themselves. There seems to be a sense on their part that they have wrung most of the value out of this lifetime, so hastening their imminent departure was a forgivable decision.
3) People in midlife who kill themselves may be unable to manage self-forgiveness. I don’t think that anyone knows the statistics, but evidence is strong that many who kill themselves in midlife in order to avoid a planned catastrophe – divorce, bankruptcy, a career crisis, whatever – will find self-forgiveness to be difficult or impossible.
Our ability to attain the higher afterlife levels is based on our rate of spiritual vibration. Evidence suggests that nearly everyone who has lived a reasonable life achieves at least the third afterlife level. But if you are unable to forgive yourself for something you have done in life, then gradually your spiritual vibratory rate will slow. You will find it harder and harder to remain on the third level. You will have plentiful love and counseling, but ultimately unless you can forgive yourself you won’t be able to maintain even the second afterlife level. You will end up in what Jesus called the outer darkness, “where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”
Where does this leave our beloved Robin Williams? He was an ambitious being when he entered this lifetime. He chose a horrendous set of lessons, combining complex interpersonal problems and extraordinary professional success with mental illness, and reportedly also Parkinson’s Disease. Wow! Any one of the four would be a tough row to hoe, and he chose them all. He was only in his early sixties, which today is late middle age. And he is bright. He is intense. I worry that for him, self-forgiveness may not be easy.
Fortunately, though, Robin Williams is very much loved. And for us to send love to those who have recently died seems to assist them in maintaining their spiritual vibratory rate, and even to assist them in self-forgiveness. Whenever I am asked about the fate of people who commit suicide, I always say that suicide is a disastrously bad idea and explain why that is true, but I also urge everyone to send love and light to loved ones lost this way, and to pray for these people in 
whatever prayer tradition makes sense to the mourner. If everyone who loves Robin Williams will do that, then I am confident that he is going to be fine.
As is true of everything else that we once might have regarded as sin, the problem with suicide is not the deed itself, but rather it is the tremendous sense of guilt that suicide can bring. Don’t even think about killing yourself! The problem with killing yourself is that it is impossible for your mind to die.
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century. I am told that he wasn’t the first to put it forth, but his experiments demonstrated it so conclusively that he was frank to say it aloud. Sadly, he was altogether ignored. The only thing that won him a Nobel Prize was his work in quantum physics. But he certainly should have received a second Nobel Prize for his theory that what we think of as human consciousness is primary and pre-existing.
As that universal genius, Albert Einstein, said of the overarching Mind of which each of our minds is a part, “Every one who is seriously involved in the pursuit of science becomes convinced that a spirit is manifest in the laws of the Universe – a spirit vastly superior to that of man, and one in the face of which we with our modest powers must feel humble.”
made scientists unable to understand some seemingly unrelated things. When you arbitrarily choose to ignore all evidence related to a major aspect of reality, then naturally your understanding of the rest of reality will be distorted! The levels of reality that we enter at death exist precisely where we are but at a higher vibratory rate, very much as different television channels exist in the same place but at different frequencies. Choosing to study only Channel Five, as mainstream science still does, is going to make you oblivious of the content and effects of all those other channels.
feel tragic. People who die unexpectedly or out of generational order are likely to distress their loved ones by the very act of dying. Life can hold so much pain! Please know, though, that the afterlife evidence overwhelmingly indicates that:
1) Death is highly individual. It is impossible to generalize about any aspect of the process of dying because each of us handles it differently, and above all we want to be in control. No matter how the death may be affecting you, this is a major event for your loved one, so it is important to let him or her take the lead.
your own needs.
much understanding of the actual death process. You will be relieved to know that the afterlife evidence overwhelmingly suggests that for most of us a well-conducted death can be the best time of our lives. Fortunately, folks who have gone before have thoughtfully shared their own experiences, so it is possible to have a pretty good understanding of what our death will be like. Based on my reading of nearly two hundred years of abundant and consistent communications from the dead, here is a brief summary of how death feels from the perspective of the person living through the experience.
body – are going to die now. But there are several energy bodies that we will be taking with us, and the process of separation can take awhile. It begins in our extremities, our hands and our feet, and if we are awake we may feel it happening like tiny threads breaking. Bodily separation doesn’t hurt, nor is it frightening; but it is interesting to be aware of the process. Gradually these surviving energy bodies will gather into our chest area and then will leave, either from the chest or more commonly through the top of the head.
a dead person we feel terrific! We might still worry a bit about the loved ones we are leaving, but we feel ourselves now young and healthy and joyous and wonderfully enveloped in love. Our deathbed visitors are hugging us, feeling as solid as anyone living; our childhood dog might be jumping up on us or happy-dancing at our feet. We turn away from our deathbed with relief and with anticipation of the wonders to come, and we join those who have come for us in together lifting our spiritual vibration and approaching a glorious new world.
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experimenting to see whether whites and free blacks could live in harmony on neighboring farms, but her death ended his interest in experimenting, as it ended his interest in many things.
the death of his wife at thirty-three, at one time I even thought that if he had managed to find a new love later in life, that was fine and none of us had the right to judge him for it. But knowing Jefferson as I had come to know him, I became sadly confident that it never had happened. Seeing that his nephews, the Carrs, seemed to have fessed up to it, at the last minute I added to the 1993 edition of My Thomas a postscript naming one of them as the father of Sally Hemings’s children. Then after the novel was first published I did some more extensive research. I came to see that all the evidence pointed not to Thomas Jefferson and not to the Carrs, but to Thomas’s younger brother, Randolph.
10)Thomas Jefferson had emotional issues that make his having been the father unlikely. He seems to me to have been emotionally incapable of fathering mixed-race children. There, I’ve said it. My reasons for feeling so strongly about this are going to have to wait for next week’s blog post, but when you see my reasoning I think it will make sense to you.
are immensely entertaining. I began reading popular science a couple of decades ago as I tried to puzzle out the physics of the realities into which we graduate at death. What I learned was that many of the peculiarities of physics in the greater reality can be nicely explained once you have even a nodding acquaintance with quantum physics. I learned a lot more as well. And sadly, the more I learned about the issues that torment mainstream scientists now, the more I began to see how in nearly every case I was able to offer insights and explanations that came from my study of the afterlife evidence. Mainstream science has been off the rails and into the weeds for the past century because it still refuses to consider all the implications of quantum physics.
