Race and Gender

Posted by Roberta Grimes • March 05, 2015 • 8 Comments
Afterlife Research, Human Nature, Understanding Reality

Recently I received an email from the granddaughter of an American slave who asked a Black Womandistressing question. She said that people of her race are too often thwarted in life, and she asked me whether racial differences are “a joke from God.” She especially wanted to know whether in the afterlife everyone would be equal. Her question is heartbreaking, but its answer is thrilling.

Each human mind is a powerful and eternal part of the Mind of God. Minds have no racial characteristics whatsoever. Furthermore:

  • The evidence is strong that nearly all of us live many earth-lifetimes. Most of us seem to live at least one lifetime of each race, although we favor one race and one general culture for most of our lifetimes. Apparently this makes our adjustment to each new lifetime easier, so it lets us concentrate on our planned lessons with fewer distractions.
  • Dealing with the issues raised by superficial differences among people can give us powerful opportunities for learning to better love and forgive. Evidence suggests that those whose present lifetimes include racial or cultural issues planned those situations as important spiritual lessons.
  • Those who have victimized people of another race or class often plan in a subsequent lifetime to be members of the group that they tormented. There is evidence that many American slaveholders and Jim Crow-era racists planned subsequent lifetimes as disadvantaged black people.

So I was happy to tell my correspondent that when she enters the afterlife levels her new body will be of whichever skin shade she prefers. Her only legacy from her lifetime lived as a person of color will be whatever spiritual lessons she has learned from the experience, so my hope is that she is making the most of them!

Gender, too, is a characteristic of our earthly bodies that does not relate to our minds. All of us live both male and female earth-lifetimes, although – as with race – we tend to favor one gender.

I have had a number of regressions and past-life readings, and in every previous lifetime of which I am aware I was a male. One psychic told me that I have always been male, although I doubt that. Still, I vividly recall being about a year old and barely walking, and discovering as I toddled toward my bath that this body was missing something essential! My thought was, “Oh. I’m the other kind this time.” My exact thought, word for word: I swear. We aren’t even supposed to form memories so Asian Womanearly, but the shock of my gender-switch was so great that I still can distinctly recall that moment.

Rather than being God’s joke, I have come to think of these racial and gender differences as God’s gift. Consider how boring our lives would be if everyone looked and acted alike! It’s important, however, that we not forget that racial and gender differences are entirely on the surface. They don’t exist at the level of our minds. And learning to more perfectly love and forgive in the face of these extra challenges is a primary reason why we are alive.


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8 thoughts on “Race and Gender

  1. Hi Roberta:

    What an awesome article and I totally agree. As a woman of color, I have faced a lot of unfairness, disappointments and injustices, instead of hating, I was determined to forgive, ignore and move forward as I navigate through this journey of life. I have been honored to meet and form friendships with people of so many ethnicities and in doing so have learned a lot of life lessons. One of the most important is “love and acceptance”. Our spirit’s bared witness with one another and the color of our skin did not play a role. Thanks for this article, I will share it with my friends and family.

  2. Some time ago I remember reading of a comment from the early 20th century in which an over-privileged white English woman queried whether black people “will go to heaven”. The reply, apparently, was that yes they will, but they will “obviously be our servants”. Yeah, right! As if! Now I don’t know if this story is apocryphal, but it does well illustrate the kind of prejudices that used to exist, and no doubt still do in some quarters.

  3. Hello Brian! One of the things I love most about studying death and the afterlife is that over and over I have found that the truth is more wonderful than our most optimistic hopes. It all is managed for each of us as a best-beloved child would be tenderly cared for by an infinitely powerful Parent.

    The greatest American of the twentieth century said, “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.” It’s thrilling to realize that Martin Luther King, Jr. was right about eternal life as well!

  4. Thank you for sharing stories that remind us of the real truth. I really appreciate your wording: the truth is more wonderful than our most optimistic hopes. This path is new for me and I have adopted several of your comments that I use as I talk to others about the real truth. I feel like you are my mentor and you are helping me in so many ways!! Thank you so much!!!

    1. Thank you, dear Nancy! I am delighted to be able to help you learn the truth so you can share it with others. You have no idea how happy I am to read your comment – it makes all my work worthwhile!

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