Posted by Roberta Grimes • October 12, 2019 • 41 Comments
Human Nature, Jesus, The Teachings of Jesus
As we continue to talk about spiritual growth, I have been hearing from more and more people who ask how they will be able to tell when they are growing spiritually. I used to wonder about that, too! But having worked at my own spiritual growth and been amazed both by how easy it is and how very different it makes you feel, I can answer this question now with confidence. And I know you really need to know! But my problem in sharing what I have learned is that everything else that I write has been assembled in the course of extensive research. Today, though, I will be sharing what is arguably the most important thing that I ever will write for you, and of necessity it will be based primarily on my own experience.
This universe exists to give us a place where we can push against negativity in order to raise our personal spiritual vibrations away from fear and toward more perfect love. The process of spiritual growth at our level is actually no more complex than that! No matter how hard this might seem to us, we are not talking spiritual graduate school here. Nor even spiritual college. Nor high school. This universe is a good and rigorous spiritual elementary school. We come here to get ready for what amounts to spiritual junior high, at which point we can cease to incarnate because we will no longer need negativity to foster what will be our eternal adventure of ever more glorious spiritual growth.
And here is why raising your personal spiritual vibration must be your main goal now:
YOUR SPIRITUAL VIBRATION IS WHO YOU ARE. You cannot do acts of cruelty or kindness, but rather you are those acts. If showing forgiveness and love in any instance feels as if you are struggling with a conscious choice, then you are acting in contradiction to your lower rate of spiritual vibration. The whole purpose of your having entered this lifetime is the transformation of your mind. And if you have to think about it, then you haven’t yet completed that transformation: you still are vibrating at a lower grade level. You are trying too hard, trying to “fake it until you make it.” And if you hope that faking it is good enough, then you won’t be making it. Not in this lifetime.
We all had a test of our personal consciousness vibratory rate only this past week, when an 18-year-old publicly hugged and forgave the murderer of his older brother. Watch this young man give his speech, then watch him beg the judge for an opportunity to hug the woman who had shot his brother to death in his own home. If you can witness young Brandt Jean’s beautiful act with anything but joy in your heart, then your spiritual development still needs work! And tragically, the reactions to what he did have been decidedly mixed. That fact horrifies me. No one who is a follower of Jesus can consider what Brandt Jean did to be anything but spiritual common sense! It is past time for people who call themselves Christians to sit and listen to the Lord Himself:
When Peter asked him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven” (MT 18:21-23).
“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another” (JN 13:34).
“‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the great and foremost commandment.
The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets” (MT 22:37-40).
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? If you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect” (MT 5:43-48).
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged; and do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; pardon, and you will be pardoned. Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure—pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return” (LK 6:37-38).
“For not even the Father judges anyone, but He has given all judgment to the Son, so that all will honor the Son even as they honor the Father” (JN 5:22-23).
“But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful” (LK 6:35-36).
Jesus gives us in the Gospels the easiest and most effective method for achieving rapid spiritual growth ever devised! All I did when I decided almost a decade ago to really try to grow spiritually was to take the Lord’s teachings as seriously and strictly as He means them to be taken. You will notice that He never says try! Always and forever, Jesus says DO.
I was an excellent experimental subject! I had been appallingly self-important, at the top of every class in school, expecting to be the winner in each contest, as impressed with myself as I could be. And I used to have a hair-trigger temper. I saw slights and reasons to feel annoyed in many of my interactions, so I was irritated a lot of the time. I didn’t realize how bad it was, since I had been that way for my entire life! I just thought my being so prickly was normal.
(As an aside, I suspect that spiritual growth is easier if you are already comfortable with thinking in an eternal frame, so I urge you first to study the afterlife literature and convince yourself your life is eternal. Then, go for it! No matter your age, you can make this your last earth-lifetime.)
I have spoken elsewhere about my process of applying the Lord’s Gospel teachings, which at first was just me messing with ideas and without real expectations. So I was amazed when, about six weeks into my experiment, I noticed a profound internal change. Something happened that should have vastly annoyed me, even blighted my entire day, and I noticed it, but now it didn’t bother me at all. It was as if there had been levers on the outside of me that people could fiddle with and make me crazy, but now those levers had been disconnected on the inside. No matter what happened from then on, I felt only peace. I continued to practice radical forgiveness proactively for a few months more, but before long doing that started to seem like overkill so I stopped bothering. And a few years later my primary guide, Thomas, unexpectedly announced to me that I am now living my last necessary earth-lifetime. Wow! What, me?? I still have trouble believing it, even though more and more I am coming to see that what he said may be true.
Growing spiritually feels like a peaceful distancing from every possible source of stress! It feels like a softening, a blissful deepening so complete that at this point I can’t even recall the agitation with which I saw the world before. As I think about it, here are the biggest differences that beginning to grow spiritually has made in my life:
The reason why spiritual growth is so easy at our basic stage is because it consists entirely in remembering who we already are! Thomas Merton was an extraordinary twentieth-century Trappist monk whose youthful autobiography, The Seven Storey Mountain, was seminal for me. Merton’s early death was by accident or by assassination. As he spoke to an audience on the day he died, he summed up the reason why growing spiritually at our stage is so easy. He said, “My dear brothers, we are already one. But we imagine that we are not. What we have to recover is our original unity. What we have to be is what we are.”
Last week a reader asked me how we plan our earth-lives for spiritual learning. What a great question! It made me realize that when the universe exists as our spiritual school, talking about how that purpose fits with the process of life and death is basic information. I have been remiss in not discussing it much before now! Let’s see if we can remedy that mistake next week.…
41 thoughts on “Am I Growing Spiritually?”
dear Roberta when ime down I pick your books up andread for an hour and it picks me up recently I bought a book that says married couples are not together in heaven and spirits are not male and female can you put me out of my misery sincerely terry
Hi Terrence! Roberta will elaborate, and she’s been at this a long time, but you are married to the one you are with as part of your agreed upon mission in this experience we perceive as incarnation. So in some larger relationship, couples are together always. It may not be what we refer to as marriage. But you are together. As for spiritual gender, I have been shown that this is an innate continuum. There are masculine and feminine spirits. There is a range across this continuum. It’s a mystical phenomenon that most likely Roberta will have clearer words to express. Please don’t worry.
Dear Mike, thank you for hustling in to help our friend Terrence! I found your response after I had posted mine, and I don’t think mine is better than yours so it’s lovely for everyone who has this question to find our different answers. Thank you!
Roberta and Terry, it is hoped that among all this information, there is comforting assurance that we are we, whether here or in the “afterlife,” which we should probably find a better term for because it’s the Always Life. Our identities are connected to all our experiences. One point to amplify is that even if we have a marriage that doesn’t last a full lifetime, for whatever reason in the earthly realm, we are having that “marriage” as part of our growth plan–so that person is instrumental to our spiritual identity now and forever. It just might not look like “marriage” as Roberta points out. As for masculine and feminine spirits, that might be a topic for a different time.
I like that term, “The Always Life”!
The problem of children who are born into their less-used gender in this lifetime has become a serious one, now that some adults have taken it upon themselves to decree that these children have to “transition” and become the non-expressed gender for life. I have written about this before, and there is so much new information that suggests that children should NEVER be transitioned that I have another blog post in the queue for this fall.
As you might imagine, with my history I wanted desperately to be a boy throughout my childhood… I was sure that I WAS a boy inside… right up until my hormones kicked in. I ended up a fully heterosexual female, married now for 47 years, the mother of three and grandmother of eight. And delighted about it all! If I were born now, these busybody monsters forcing children to make these disastrous life-choices when they are too young to drive a car or even do long division would have destroyed my very carefully laid out life-plan (about which problem, more next week).
Oh my dear Terry, there is so much nonsense information out there, primarily because:
(a) most of the communicating spirits are at a relatively low level – often they are someone’s relative at level three – and they simply don’t know much; and
(b) many people assume that an NDE-er’s experiences are evidence of what happens in the afterlife, when of course they are nothing of the sort. NDEs tell us virtually nothing about what happens in the genuine afterlife.
It is good always to remember, too, that the only rule in the afterlife is that there are no rules! The fact is that those married on earth are not “married” there, and earth-married couples don’t have to be together there and aren’t assumed to be together, but of course they can be together if they want to be. In fact, a great many are. And nearly everyone expresses a gender there, usually the gender from the most recent lifetime; indeed, even sixth-level beings, who last incarnated for the most part long ago and tend to look pretty androgynous, express as sort-of one gender or the other.
Here are three personal examples that are entirely typical of what the evidence indicates has been consistent over the past 200 years:
1) My parents live together in my family’s compound, but her spiritual development is much above his – and she always loved to travel, while he never did – so now she does a lot of solo traveling in the higher realms.
2) My mother-in-law was widowed young and remarried, then died at 94. She tells us that she has seen her first husband, but she lives with her second because she is more comfortable with him. Had she wanted to live with both of them, or if her first husband was now living with a spouse from a prior lifetime and if all four of them had wanted to live together, they could have done that too. No one would have cared!
In short, if both people want it, you can live together; if the marriage was not good for one of them, though – or if their interests are very different – then going solo, is perfectly acceptable too. Or for each to live with someone else. Or for some people to choose to live in a commune-style group would also be fine! There are no rules, and not even really any reliable conventions.
3) Where gender is concerned, we mind-create for ourselves beautiful young bodies of our preferred gender; I don’t recall ever reading a new arrival’s complaint that people there don’t have genders! Sometimes, though, people choose to express different genders there on different occasions. For example, since being female is not normal for me – in nearly all my other lifetimes I have been male – I expect to be Roberta around my family and friends from this lifetime, but generally male at other times. Again, no one cares!
I hope this helps, dear Terry! We are so used to being regimented and bullied here, that the degree of personal empowerment we have there if we are even modestly advanced spiritually is going to be a wonderful surprise for you!
Just a short comment on this weeks article.
Your reflection on what your body and mind felt like after your transformation fits exactly how I feel but could never find the perfect words. I would try & explain the change I felt but the following words are perfect: softening & blissful.
I’ve always used the word ” quiet ” and yes my mind is quiet; however I think, softening, is the perfect description of how the body feels.
Dear Skip, I actually agonized over the right words to use. Because you do feel much stronger! I guess I worried that the word “soft” doesn’t convey that well. But my guides wanted to go with it. Thank you for confirming that they were right!
I Love you Roberta
Oh dear Simon, how sweet you are – thank you!
Roberta: My heart was racing when I read your reply to Terry concerning whether married couples are still “married.” I totally agree that they are NOT necessarily together if they don’t want to be. I had heard through a medium a few years ago that my deceased husband has a “girl friend” in spirit and when I told a few friends, they didn’t believe me and told me the medium was either lying or mistaken. We weren’t an argumentative couple and got along well. Therefore, people assumed we would be together in some future afterlife. However, the same medium told me there are no rules per se in the afterlife, which is exactly what you said above. At first, this news devastated me, but over the past few years, I have come to terms with it, and it doesn’t bother me at all now. Had I not pursued this issue and not looked for more information, I would have been shocked if I died and found this out, but now, I do not feel that way any more. This is so terribly important for people to know, as it goes against the grain of what most people would anticipate will happen. Marriage is man made, and anything man made is not necessarily the norm in the afterlife situation. Again, this is of utmost importance because we are taught to believe that marriage is some sort of sacred bond that can never be broken because it would offend God or some such thing. So glad that you and Terry brought this up.
It’s important to ne aware that life is a continuum. What’s true in the earthly realm is the result of arrangements agreed upon for the sake of the larger reality, which we must not forget belongs to God. This means, to the point of the original purpose of this week’s entry, that our earthly arrangements are for the sake of growing toward God’s reality. A marriage and every other agreed upon experience in this plan is made for that purpose. But in the larger reality we are already all together in divine love and consciousness. Our earthly roles are secondary to that larger oneness. But, to Terry’s point, your loving relationship with your earthly “spouse” is an agreement with that person for their own growth as well, and in that way, you are connected eternally. It might not need to be distinguished as a “marriage” because that’s not relevant in the “Always Life” experience.
It is important to be aware that our life is a continuum, isn’t it ?
So in that continuum we are connected eternally, even if the ‘roles’ on earth change in the ‘Always Life’, the love and depth of it is still there….. Yeah, I get your point.
I guess our relationships perspective is different in the Greater Reality but love is still eternal. Thanks for your insight and understanding.
BTW: I like the term ‘Always Life’ greatly. That’s more the eternal perspective, eh ?. 👍🙏🏼🕊
Efrem! Thanks! Guess who, again !😉
Dear Lola, please understand that relationships in the afterlife are not pair-bonding, they don’t matter to others, and they aren’t sexual, and therefore the fact that your husband has reconnected with a friend or friends does not mean that he won’t be eager to reconnect with you as well! There is no marriage there, but married couples who love one another generally live together, at least for a time, by choice. It is appalling to me that this medium chose the loaded term “girl friend,” since it implies a lot of things on earth that simply have no relevance in the afterlife.
Please remember, too, that each of you has lived many lifetimes, including marriages to people who haven’t even been in your lives this time around! When we return home, all those people are eager to see us and reconnect – not romantically, but as old and dear friends. I have a hunch that is who this woman is to your husband. And it’s really no biggie! So please don’t write him off just yet, dear one. Remember that you also have many former spouses waiting to welcome you back….
Thanks, Roberta.. I have a hunch that people who are now on “the other side” live and think much differently than we do here, and are no longer bound by our judgmental rules etc. That’s why I have come to terms with whatever this means. I also feel that we are free to meet new acquaintenances if we so desire, as I think that’s part of evolvement. I’ve even read this in some of the literature, as I’m sure you have as well. The bottom line is that the greater reality and soul progression are what is important, as already mentioned by yourself and others here.
Yes – exactly — very well put
How many times have we loved, and in how many lives? If we don’t really die, do any of those loves really die? It is a somewhat confusing and multiplicitous, but at the same time an eternally “always-life” beautiful thought. It must make some of that life planning we’ll be discussing next time complex indeed!
And speaking of beautiful, I had missed the gesture by Brandt Jean that you referenced in your piece, Roberta, since I tend to minimize my news consumption these days. That was a true inspiration and example of Jesus’ teachings about another kind of love, unconditional love and forgiveness! I can only hope I eventually reach that level in this lifetime, and therefore make it my last necessary one. Some of those spiritual leaders who criticized him should realize he was the real example in this particular instance.
Well said, dear Scott! And he was so young. That is what really astounds me. When I was eighteen, I was utterly clueless; and here is this extraordinary eighteen-year-old who tells us he was just doing what his (also very young) murdered brother would want him to do. Yes, you are right in assuming that young Brandt doesn’t need to learn any further life-lessons, and that likely was true of his brother as well! Which has kind of made me wonder in passing whether this was a set of incidents that two advanced beings had planned before birth, and whether Brandt might now also boogie on home before too long, just as Mikey Morgan did at twenty. I hope he won’t do that, for his family’s sake – it would be awful for them to lose two such beautiful children! But there is no question that Brandt Jean is a very advanced being, and one of the most advanced I ever have seen who was still in a body.
Dear Roberta and all of us together:
May all prayers, love and salutations bolster our glorious journeys with the Creator ad infinitum, YEH?
This article and comments/responses feels like the words from the song “Up Where We Belong” with the lyric: ” Love lifts us up where we belong”
Trappist Monk Thomas Merton:
“My dear brothers, we are already one. But we imagine that we are not. What we have to recover is our original unity. What we have to be is what we are.”
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a persistent one.”
Please notice the word ONE at the end of Einstein’s quote.
Perhaps he did not realize the significance of his choice of the word ONE, the unity of the Creator in all, there is nothing else.
The Creator is all there is, even everywhere, always and forever.
We are here to glorify Creation in a duality game.
The Creator’s Thoughts/Creations are infinitely beyond our comprehension. Christ and many others loving show us
The unity we cannot see is the Creator answering all our questions of:
Who, What, When, Where, Why and How.
Our awareness is the Creator’s; our consciousness is the Creator’s ad infinitum, yeh?
Egotistical thoughts and languages seem quite futile?
Love always and forever!
Hello dear William! I do love that wry quote from Einstein. He was deep in the materialist worldview, and it was clear that he didn’t like the implications of quantum mechanics. Still, he pretty quickly understood them. It has been a very long haul over the whole past century – as those of us who have been working on this for decades surely know! – but we are nearing a public breakthrough now. You can feel it in your (illusory) bones. This is such an exciting time to be alive!
I went to see a famous medium Tyler Henry over the weekend. I was not expecting any revelations or anything, but like him as a person and enjoy his positive energy. I was especially pleased when he spoke of everyone crossing over and having a life review, and he spoke of how we will see the positive and negative things we have done and how these actions radiated outward and impacted others. The other thing that happens he believes is that after we cross over, our Ego is shed like an outer skin, and that is also very freeing as we have no need for it on the other side.
Shedding the ego, as you have blogged about before, is part of growing spiritually and as you also speak about bringing “heaven on earth. ” While we are bound by earth time, the fact we can ponder and speak about these things may signal the time is nearer, even if it’s 2000 years from now.
Oh my dear Timothy, the advent of the kingdom of God on earth has got to happen a lot sooner than that! My dear guide, Thomas, tells me that we have pretty much got to turn it around by the end of this century, or else rampant and unrestrained negativity risks the destruction of this planet and everyone on it. And he also says that, as unlikely as it seems that we might engineer a quick change so profound, we can do it! He says that we are now on track to do it. So the stakes are high, but we can be sure we are on the side of the angels (um… literally!).
I am glad to hear that Thomas is pleased with the progress – I was listening to Christian radio today, accidentally in the car actually, and I was appalled by the ladies talking about the world and that Satan is wanting one government one religion, blah blah blah, and how they see it unfolding. Then the conversation turned to the current state of affairs in the US (politically) and they spoke of the US almost as if the US were the sum of the world, as if the rest of the world didn’t count. What I found appalling was they were using a religious platform to fuel the flames of disregard for others, and not only that but claiming indirectly that what happens in the US is all that really matters in the grand scheme of things. I tuned it off right away, but having been brought up in a Christian home, it was sad to me to see such teaching over the airwaves. This type of propaganda speech may be the biggest challenge to overcome now, since they claim to be speakers of God’s will and God’s plan.
Dear Timothy, Christianity is – tragically! – a profoundly fear-based religion. And it breeds in its strictest adherents exactly the sort of thing that you heard on Christian radio: first, paranoia about Satan and all that one-world nonsense; and then, the horrible and self-defensive othering of people in different countries, as if we were not all one being. I used to love Christianity! In some ways, I still love it. But it is becoming impossible to imagine that humankind can ever make spiritual progress until after the last of this bogus and entirely fear-based religion has faded away ;-(.
This is an extended version of my rather terse comment above, namely “David”. I think the fact that I am smiling as I write this and not red-faced shows a little spiritual progress, n’est ce pas? anyway, I don’t wish to reproduce the entire post, 99% of which was mysteriously deleted, except to say that I thought that I might be able to measure spiritual progress, by certain markers or milestones. I did write about a progression of videos from Ancient Aliens to George Noory who had Roberta as a guest. Perhaps my guides helped me with the TV remote control.
Oh dear Cookie, I am so sorry that our blog-comment gremlins likely considered your post to be too brilliant, so they deleted it :-(. Yes, for sure the fact that you are cheerful about that does indicate some real spiritual progress!
I have thought, too, that we may be able to gauge some actual spiritual progress over millennia of human history… but then we look at the perfectly disastrous 20th century. How do we reconcile the hundreds of millions of people killed, the atrocities worldwide and quite literally beyond bearing? By some measures, the century just completed was the cruelest in human memory. I can see the progress beforehand, right up through the American Revolution. (The French Revolution? Not so much.) Even the Civil War was not so unremittingly cruel for the sake of cruelty as was WWI in Europe. It really is a puzzlement!
Somewhat late in suggesting that before posting long, detailed pieces it’s prudent to copy the text and maybe even paste it temporarily into a wordprocessor package. Then hit the submit button – been there, made that same mistake. 🙁
You indicated that to see Brandt’s outstanding act of authentic forgiveness with anything less than joy, means there is more spiritual growth to take place. Well I did find his forgiveness astounding and profound in such a world as this one. It was somehow peace giving and I felt a sense of ‘wholeness’ about it. (It seems that I do have much growth to experience, as I didn’t feel actual joy though.)
It struck me that concerning young Brandt, one always shows a diamond by placing it on a dark foil, such as black velvet. Then one can see how amazingly the stone of adamant reflects the light in myriad patterns and dazzles the eye. In the same way, in these dim ages of this earth, a bright act of pure heart shines for everyone to behold.
Is this not the advantage of Jesus’ light in a dark world (where there is even strong criticism of Brandt’s act) that His light shines like a beacon on a dark night? That’s why I am not discouraged about the spreading of the Way, because SO many people are yearning for it and the times are SO dark that His light will draw the souls towards it in droves before long.
Much love my dear. I enjoyed your markers of spiritual growth outlined in this blog, immensely.
You show clearly that our inner growth can in fact be seen.
Oh dear Efrem, your description of your reaction to Brandt’s act sure looks like joy to me! Simply contrast your reaction with that of people who were outraged to see him forgiving his brother’s killer. Sadly, there are so many of us still who cannot grasp the simple fact that forgiveness of others is a gift to ourselves. After all, what does the miscreant care whether we forgive him or not? He doesn’t care! He shrugs. But the plain fact is that dragging around an endless anger over something we cannot change or fix will burden us and lower our personal vibration, while forgiving always lightens us. it really is impossible to grow spiritually unless we can forgive from the heart, and you seem to have learned that lesson very well indeed!
It’s important to forgive the miscreant because they often cannot forgive themselves.
Hey 👋 Mike,
Your replies always prove really insightful.
I guess miscreants cannot truly be at peace with their atrocities and deep within, they don’t forgive or even like themselves… 🙏🏼🕊
Thank you dearest Roberta, I wish people would see forgiveness just as you have described it.
Thomas and your good self are showing people how to really understand and enact Jesus’ way out of madness into Divinity.
I like and will adopt your suggestion to use a word processor to copy a post and not delete it until it shows up in this forum. Actually, why not keep it for posterity?
Amen! Sincere thanks for the reminder, Roberta. “The peace of God which surpasses all understanding…” –Philippians 4:7
Oh yes, dear Deanna! If we will simply yield to it, the peace and joy of our journey home is indeed beyond what we can understand in human terms!
If we are supposed to forgive indefinitely (70 x7) shouldn’t God the Father do the same for every single sinner on earth? (for those who believe in the eternal punishment and the “gnashing of teeth” of the Bible…)-Celia
My dear Celia, you make a terrific point! Of course God forgives us completely. Jesus abolished even the concept of sin (although the later church councils put it back here and there), and He even said that God never judges us: “For not even the Father judges anyone, but He has given all judgment to the Son, so that all will honor the Son even as they honor the Father. He who does not honor the Son does not honor the Father who sent Him. Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life” (JN 5:22-24). Jesus’s reference to “gnashing of teeth” refers to the outer darkness, which does indeed exist as He described it, but we put ourselves there – no religious figure ever does!
dear Roberta thank you for repliyingto my comments and your right about mediums theres a lot of fraud out there I live in uk and since losing my dear wife I have spent a fortune trying to contact her its not just the cost its the fact they are lyingto the most vunerable but I don’t need mediums realy ive told you about all thethings that’s happened to me recently thanks for everything Roberta terry xx
Dear Terence, I’m sorry you have had these frustrating problems! While there are some excellent genuine mediums whose wish is just to bring people wonderful comfort and validation, in my position I have heard from many people who have been victimized by the unscrupulous ones. They will charge exorbitant amounts, and then just offer generalized pap; or I even have heard tales of a medium who has used information gained during readings to blackmail and defraud people. I agree with you, Terence. A good and honest medium is like gold, just as rare and just as precious!