Last week I was on Coast to Coast AM with George Noory. Beginning while the show was still on air, I received a wonderful flood of emails, so many that it took me two days and nights to answer them all. Most were questions or comments, but a few were heartbreaking stories. One of these came from Dawn. Hers was one of the first emails I opened, and it was so full of pain that it brought tears to my eyes.
She said in part, “Faith died on December 15, 2014. She would have been 3 in February on the 25th. I don’t know how to find my way through this. Most days I hope someone will smash into me on the freeway and end it without it being my own fault. My baby, who could get in and out of the bath tub alone, drowned with no splash, no hitting her head, in the tub within moments of my sister getting her own toddler son out of the same bath in the master bedroom. How am I supposed to understand this, let alone go on?”
What could I say to comfort her? I talked about how we plan our lives, and “especially when you describe the way she died, I find it hard to believe that could have been anything but planned. Your gift to her will be to learn and grow spiritually. I know you find it impossible to believe this now, but when you are hugging the lovely young woman she will be when you see her again, you will understand. Dear friend, you live many lifetimes! You have reared children in other lifetimes, and you will do it again – this lifetime is just one hard day at the gym. And for this particular lifetime you are working at gaining spiritual gifts that perhaps you can’t achieve in any other way. The growth to come is her gift to you.” I had hours of answering emails ahead, and no time to say more. But I winced as I hit Send.
The next day Dawn sent me an astonishing email. The most important parts are in italics. “Thank you for taking so much time to write to me. I need to share something with you that I just found out about. My sister’s husbands family spent time with my Faith that I was not a part of as I worked. His younger sister, Angel, had a dream about Faith just last night. The same night I was reaching out to you and hurting so so bad. She texted the dream to my sister, who just told me about it… In the dream Faith appeared at a family party, and everyone knew she had passed but was so excited to see her. Faith was happy, giggling and excited by the attention and told them that she could not stay long and she had to go home. She went into a jumping house thing and Angel woke up crying.”
This was an astonishing communication dream! I emailed Dawn right away. “Dear friend, the dream and its timing were NOT coincidence, as of course you know! Your beautiful Faith has been desperate to get through to you the fact of her survival and her joy, but you have been too full of negative emotions – grief, anger – which are absolute barriers to the dead when they try to communicate with us. In desperation, she gave her message to someone close to you who would be able to get it to you. And she was at a FAMILY PARTY! Which, of course, is where she is right now! Faith was happy, giggling and excited by the attention, and she told them she could not stay long and she had to go home. WOW! There is her message to you, darling friend – that is what she wants you to know!
“Dear Dawn, the timing and the dream and the fact that you were listening to C2C and you reached out to me as you did and the fact that I answered your email right away were all Faith’s beautiful work. Her brief life here was the gift to you of a very advanced eternal being who loves you very much and will be waiting to hug you after you have used her gift to build an extraordinary life of spiritual growth. Not all gifts are pleasant to receive! Some are terrible, but beautiful all the same. Be comforted, dear Dawn, and allow Faith to help you heal and make the most of this brief lifetime!”
When I heard from Dawn again, she was calmer. “I had to read your emails a few times to really get the full sense of this message from Faith. At first I just took it in the context of the dream, but I am seeing now that it was really about her whole life here with me as well.”
Within a couple of days she was saying, “Thank you for sharing all of your insight with me. I don’t want to speak too soon, but for now, this interaction and Faith’s message has brought me to a place I didn’t think I would ever truly know again. I think I am getting that acceptance. I miss her so very much every day. I don’t want to jump the gun, but I think I am feeling better.”
And a day or two later she said, “Thank you for checking in on me… the pain seems to have eased in a good way. I ache for her and miss her badly, but somehow it is different than it was before that night.”
Ascended beings tell us that every child who dies is an advanced being who didn’t need a whole lifetime, but who went through the difficulties of entering a fetus and being born and living a brief life here as a spiritual gift to those who love and lose that child. I know how you feel. I don’t like this either! But in the context of our eternal lives, the brief separation from a beloved child that can start us on a lifetime of spiritual growth is not the tragedy that it would be if this brief lifetime were all there was. Dawn isn’t past her grief. You never really get over the loss of a child. But knowledge is power! Knowing that every child who dies is happy, safe, and growing up in a beautiful reality surrounded by love helps most bereaved parents immeasurably.
Faith’s gift to her mother is also her gift to you.