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Pets in the Afterlife

Posted by Roberta Grimes • February 25, 2015 • 210 Comments
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If there is one question I am asked more frequently than any other it is whether our Woman with Dogs and Catcompanion animals are waiting for us in the afterlife levels. Some people lead with a personal challenge: “If my dogs can’t be there, I’m not going!” I understand how they feel. A heaven without our animal friends would not be a heaven at all, so I’m delighted to report to you that every animal we ever have loved awaits us in a beautiful eternal reality where love never ends.

There are many things about the afterlife that we can say are more than likely, based upon nearly two hundred years of abundant and consistent afterlife evidence. This is one thing, though, of which there is no doubt.

Animals are of a fundamentally different spiritual nature than human beings. I have seen messages from channeled entities saying that animals are of a “purer” nature, but I’m not even sure what that means; I know only that animals have spiritual identities, and those identities are unique to each kind of animal. When creatures die in the wild, or when domestic animals die without a close human bond, they return to what is sometimes called a “group soul” that is specific to their species. However, when any kind of non-human creature develops a love-bond with a person, that animal develops a separate identity. It enters our afterlife levels as a young and healthy version of itself, and there it awaits the joyous day when it can again lick our face or perch upon our finger or jump up, purring, into our arms.

You can immediately see a problem. People who enjoy their animal companions will love many cats or dogs or birds in their lifetimes, and the evidence suggests that all of them are going to be waiting for their human friends. There are early-twentieth-century communications where someone who has been in the Summerland for awhile complains about the mob of dogs and cats that greeted a new arrival, and nothing would do but that she first must pat every one of them before human loved ones could get near enough to hug her.

It isn’t only beloved dogs and cats and parakeets that await us, but farm and circus animals that have been loved by a human being likewise develop independent minds sufficient for them to be waiting in the Summerland. I have just had a wonderful reading with a psychic medium, my first in more than a decade, and my relatives and guides chose to assemble on my grandparents’ dairy farm. The medium kept remarking about how beautiful the farm was, and how abundant were the dairy cows, each one of which must in life have been a special pet of my grandfather’s.

Sometimes our animals will be among the deathbed visitors who help us transition. Reports of dogs at deathbeds are common. One early-twentieth-century hermit who had trusted no human being in life reportedly was met at his deathbed by a big white horse he must at some point have loved.

Our animals often give us post-death signs and communications. A familiar bark or meow, a rub against a leg, or a cold nose against an arm: these are frequent littleBoy with Horse signs. Animals that had slept on our beds will sometimes continue to do that, so we might be reading or watching TV and we will distinctly feel the animal jump up onto the bed and then see and feel the little paw-indentations as the animal walks to its sleeping place, where we will see and feel the greater indentation as the animal curls to sleep beside our feet. Full-blown visions of animals are rare, but they can happen, too.

My most extraordinary animal communication was a visitation dream from my horse. There was Beau in harness in front of me, pulling the cart in which he and I had enjoyed exploring the dirt roads near our home. He was trotting along happily, and I was in rapture. The only problem with driving a horse is the bugs in your teeth because you can’t stop grinning. Then we had, one after another, three encounters with diesel eighteen-wheelers that had no business on wilderness roads. Each time, as the truck bore down on us, I steered Beau into the roadside bushes and fast jumped out of the cart to hug his head against my chest so he wouldn’t bolt as the truck roared past us. As the third truck – perhaps his death – was approaching, I woke up.

That had been a communication dream, but what had it meant? In Child with Birdminutes, I knew. We had moved twice during his lifetime, and Beau was thanking me that he had been kept safe during both of the moves of his life and gently cared for until he died. After that dream, I have decided that I won’t ride or drive a horse again until my friend and I are reunited and I can have bugs in my teeth forevermore.

The fact that simply being loved by a person can give an animal an independent existence is one more indication of two things that the afterlife evidence consistently tells us. Our minds are integral parts of the eternal and infinitely creative Mind that brings forth the universe. And of every power that exists, by far the greatest power is love.

 

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210 thoughts on “Pets in the Afterlife

    1. Thank you for commenting, Marie! I’ve been hearing from other people today precisely that: coming back to us to sleep on our beds is an astonishingly common and loving gesture from our pets after they have died!

      1. The section about post-death signs and communications really got to me!! I have experienced some of these things with a couple of my cats and my pug Daisy!!!

      2. I lost my bunny of 4 years yesterday… He passed in my arms his name is shadow he was so loving and would follow me all around the house and lick me… So sad to have lost him. I just need some reasurrance that he knows I love him and that I hope he is waiting for me…

        1. I’m sorry about your loss, Luciano, but the evidence is overwhelmingly strong that every animal we ever have loved is waiting for us there, now perfectly healthy and loving us just as much as ever. So please be comforted. Shadow is fine!

    2. I have only ready about the rainbow bridge and not sure how real it was. We just lost our 15 year old pug. He was fine and kissed her once and passed.

      It’s been beyond hard. I find myself randomly crying. I googled after life and read this.

      After he passed we brought him in. They took him in the back and we heard his howl. We thought we were crazy. Apparently this actually happens. I hope to see him in the afterlife (crying)

      1. Yes, dear, you certainly did hear him howl! That is a typical kind of sign, and it’s lovely that your little one was able to do it so quickly after his death. You certainly can let yourselves be comforted by it! Your little guy is just fine, and 15 years is a good, long life for a dog. A friend of mine calls puppies “pain in a fur wrapper” because dogs have such brief lifetimes, but the glorious news is that they then go easily to the same place where we go, where they wait for us either with some of our loved ones, or – more usually – in group homes where they can play with other dogs. They are young and beautiful again, they neither eat nor need to be walked, and because time is different there it seems to them that very soon we join them and take them to their new homes there with us. It is YOUR LOVE that has given your little friend an eternal separate life! Animals that don’t have loving humans return to a species-specific “group soul,” but animals whose people love them (like your dog and my horse) are there waiting for us. I promise you that!

          1. Please remember that it is all about love. Whichever people the pet loved in live – whether same family, different families, or even not in the pet’s family at all – will be the ones that the pet will be eager to see again and welcome into the afterlife. In the case of an animal that had two families and loved and was loved by one or more people in each family, it is likely that the pet would go back and forth between homes as it felt the urge to be with one or another loved one. There is no distance in the afterlife, so even if the families were not neighbors it would be easy for the pet to move by thought from one home to another. It is love that gives the pet an independent existence, and love that will determine where and how it enjoys spending that existence!

          2. What if you die before your beloved pets do like my father passed away two years ago Coco and Toby are Chihuahua dogs are still alive and me and my mom take care of them was just wondering if we will all see them someday I’m sure my dad’s waiting to see them

          3. In a word: YES!! The best thing about where we all go at death is the wonderful and joyous reunion parties!!

  1. Great, reassuring article!!! I wanted to share w a friend who just lost her Scottie but couldn’t How can i share? Thanks

    1. Hi Allison! Don’t you love it when the news is all good? It’s on my Facebook page, but you might just direct her to robertagrimes.com and the Blog – that seems easiest. If she subscribes there, I’ll be delighted and new posts will come right to her inbox ;-).

      1. Do you have a book? This reassurance that I will see him again really helps my grieving process. I’m tough 🙂 but with dogs my heart melts

        1. Hello George! Don’t feel silly about your softness for dogs – I hear from people almost daily who have your same particular soft-spot! If you look for me on Amazon, you’ll see that I have several books. The Fun of Dying will help you to understand just where your four-legged loved ones are waiting for you, and The Fun of Staying in Touch is primarily about signs from and communication with people, but it includes some of the kinds of signs that dogs send to us. If you ever have questions, don’t hesitate to ask them through this website!

  2. Thank you for your blog on our beloved animal friends, Roberta. I have rescued many cats, dogs, and birds over the years and am looking forward to seeing everyone of them again. Some of my babies I have actually seen or heard shortly after they died, which was enormously consoling. And it has been common for me to dream of them once they have come through the initial transition to the other side. I am convinced my dog named Hawk, who recently died, sent me a delightful visitation of 5 little green lizards a week ago. I was sitting in an outdoor café in Hawaii and was really missing him. The five small lizards shyly crawled over to my place at the counter and hung around, looking at me, which was so funny and strange, until it occurred to me that it was a sign from Hawk. I had felt him so closely about a minute before the lizards showed up. Once I got the message, the lizards turned and left one by one quite quickly. It was such a great message of love. At the time Hawk died, I was looking after 5 dogs–perhaps there was one lizard for each dog?

    1. This is really beautiful, Ann! It’s astonishing how intense the love relationship is with our companion animals. And yes, the evidence is strong that every pet that you ever have loved will be waiting for you, excited and joyful, so be prepared for a great deal of leg-rubbing and face-licking!

  3. It was amazing, Roberta. As it dawned on me that the lizards were a greeting sent by Hawk, a song was playing in the cafe. Most of the words were unclear, but the words of the refrain were “I want to be with you 24/7. Your love is like my heaven.” And that was Hawk. When he was alive, if I went upstairs without him, he would be offended.
    The song and lizards were a wonderful experience. I suspect a friend of mine who died some years ago helped pull it together for Hawk. My friend has been so good at getting just the right song to play so that I know he is there and sending love.

  4. I grew up indifferent to animals. I married someone who loved animals. Our first dog suffered under my hands. Not until the end of his life I started to show affection for him. One day after he passed away, I was practicing OBE and I found myself in a strange place when a pack of dogs passed by me. One of the dogs stayed behind and coming towards me jumped and embraced me. I will probably never be able to express in words this encounter with my dog but he left with me the impression that he wanted me to know that he loved me and had forgiven me. This experience transformed me. Today, I have five dogs and have an immense love for all animals.

    1. Thank you for sharing this, Carlos! It is such a beautiful example of the way our companion animals work in our lives to open our hearts and help us to grow spiritually. What an extraordinary gift of love that first dog gave to you! I haven’t seen statistics, but I have come to believe that most actual post-death visitations from beloved animals are compassionate expressions of forgiveness. I also have had one such visitation. And the healing that comes from these experiences is, as you say, absolutely life-transforming!

  5. My beloved dog was euthanized yesterday after a rapid and unexpected decline in health. I found your blog to be comforting, especially since someone I know had commented that dogs don’t have souls. Thank you for taking the time to write such reassuring words.

    1. Oh my dear Cate, if there is one thing about which all afterlife researchers are absolutely certain it is that our pets are all waiting for us, young and healthy and exactly who they were in life, jumping up on us and barking and licking our faces with joy when we arrive. Depend upon it, dear – your dog is fine!!

  6. I lost my beautiful little JR Girl a few weeks back, she was a healing gentle little girl with a wonderful sense of fun, still very young her death was completely unexpected.
    I miss her way beyond words but I know she is with me, One morning she tried to wake me up by gently kicking my head something she use to do before she passed into spirit, it’s the fact that I can’t physically hug or touch her that makes it so very hard.

    1. I’m so sorry, Siobhan! I hope you’re relieved to know that your beloved is happy and healthy now and will be waiting for you where love never ends. And meanwhile, some people find that having a new little friend to cuddle does help. It’s terrible that dogs and cats have lives that are much shorter than ours, but every one of them who goes before us will be waiting for us and loving us! Just knowing that makes me smile whenever I think of it. Big hug, dear!

  7. Just 2 days ago our beloved yellow lab, Sidney, suffered a stroke and had to be euthanized. My wife and I are devastated. We loved him so much. Today would have been his 14th birthday. About an hour ago we were sitting on our backyard patio enjoying a quiet summer evening when out of nowhere a hummingbird showed up to feed on some flowers in a large flower pot about 5 feet away from us. Seeing a hummingbird is pretty rare, and when you do see one they’re usually gone in a matter of seconds. This one tonight stayed for nearly 4 minutes! Each minute or so it would move away from the flower pot, move closer to us, hover in mid-air looking at my wife and I for 5-10 seconds, then go back to the flower pot. It did this 3-4 times. It was surreal. After it finally flew away, my wife and I looked at each other in amazement saying, “O..M..G.., do you believe what just happened!” Neither of us has experienced anything like this before. I’ve got to believe it was some sort of sign or message from our baby, Sidney. 🙂

    1. I am so sorry for your loss, Mark. But you gave Sidney a wonderful life, and fourteen is a good old age for a lab – that is the problem with loving a dog, they have such a brief time with us. But you can be certain that Sidney will be waiting for you, young and healthy and happy and just the same lovely guy that he always was! And meanwhile, yes, that hummingbird is a wonderful sign from him that he has survived and he is just fine. Please be comforted in that!

  8. I lived in northern Alaska with a pack of wolves for many years in the 1970s to 1980s; all wolves go to wolf heaven. The most sacred thing wolves taught me is they never are bored, they constantly live in the present. All wolves learn, and it seems they learn what they need to learn, and lean it better than humans; they love life and only suffer when humans take their space and lives.
    The only way a human goes to wolf heaven, is by being a wolf and some, but very few humans, see how wonderful wolf life is, or have taken interest in what wolves experience, and very few care to make the transition to living purely for the excitement and pleasure of being alive. I hope I make it and live eternally in the ever fascinating, always living on the now.

    1. Hello Joe! This is fascinating. The evidence is strong that animals do indeed have species-specific group souls and heavens, but that you might visit where the wolves go would be quite an honor. Thank you for sharing!

  9. This has truly helped me cope with the loss of my pet. We had no choice but to put my cat down Monday night.. it was hands down the most difficult thing I have been through. The pain is unexplainable. He was 15/16 years old, and was in the final stage of kidney failure. Knowing I will see him again one day puts my mind at ease. Ive had him since elementary school, he has literally been with me the majority of my life.. the last 2 nights I saw him in my dreams, he was happy and looked healthy again, I can only hope this is a sign from him.

    1. Oh Krista, what a beautiful story! Your cat is whole and healthy and young and happy again, and is eagerly awaiting your arrival; that we know for certain, based on the afterlife evidence. Those lovely dreams are likely to have been signs from him as well, and one tell is that he is showing himself to you as he looks now. If one or both of those dreams is still fresh and detailed for you even days later, then those were indeed communication dreams. I had a similiar dream from my horse, who had been important to my young life as your cat was to yours. And I still treasure it. Big hug, dear! He is fine, and he is delighted that you have recognized his communication!

  10. Good evening Roberta

    How reassuring to read your words and those of your readers, we have just lost our 15 year old yorkie Jake following a short illness. He was such a huge part of our family living between 3 homes, going on holidays with us, sharing our beds. I never knew such grief as his passing and cannot wait to pick up his ashes and have our little man back home. Its only been 3 days but after telling a picture of Jake that daddy was lost and struggling, tonight out of the blue someone I know had posted on facebook a message asking if anyone could dog sit on friday, upon contacting them it looks as though it may turn into a regular arrangement. They walk unbeknown to me the same routes myself and Jake walked….mysterious ways indeed and in someway I would like to think Jake helped me and the other dog.

    1. Oh my dear, what a wonderful story! For him to have put you together with your new friend would be well within what Jake could do, and perhaps he will also help you to open your heart enough to welcome another little friend into your home. Our animal companions have lives on earth so much shorter than ours, and they love us so much, that they are delighted when we will adopt and love others;then after we transition, we will have many furry friends there to welcome us, now all young and healthy! It can be a bit overwhelming to have them all back at once, but wonderfully so. Big hug, and thank you for sharing your story!

  11. Hi Roberta,
    We just lost our beloved dog, Quincy, to congestive heart failure. He was 14 years old. Quincy lived energetically and joyfully for nearly 5 months after the initial diagnosis with the help of medications, outstanding veterinary care, and love. Then in the wee hours of New Year’s Day, he declined rapidly. We could tell from his eyes that it was time. There was nothing more we could do. So with the help of one of our compassionate veterinarians, we said goodbye to our dear boy. The grief was overwhelming, as you know. Sometimes I wonder how any of us survive it. So I asked Quincy for a sign, a message, to let me know he was okay. Later that night, I turned on the radio, and moment later I heard these song lyrics: “I have an angel guiding me, and I’m on my way to heaven.” I can’t help but think Quincy was responding to my request. Hearing those lyrics certainly gave me comfort. Thanks for your kind and uplifting words to all of us who grieve right now.

    1. Dear Sara,that was an absolutely beautiful sign! He will probably send you others as well. The grief that we feel for our pets is no less than the grief that we feel for a human loved one, so it’s tragic that their lives are so brief! It feels as if we have lost a child. If I weren’t certain that our companion animals survive, I don’t think that I could bear the pain of living on! But they do survive; that is one of the facts about the afterlife of which we are most certain. Your darling Quincy is young and healthy now, he never will know pain again, and with all his old energy and joy he is playing with other pups in a place where only love exists. He won’t experience time there, so it will seem to him to be only moments before he hears your voice and licks your face again, even if forty years have passed between you. So please be comforted! And if you have questions, you always can contact me through this website.

  12. I was brought to this site I feel by my dog Lily, who passed 1/7/16. The story started 3/2014. We lost our sweet Lacey ( Beagle ) after having dog breast cancer for 3 years at the age of 11. My sister needed to take a 6 month old pup to the pound because she could not really give her time she needed. We had just lost Lacey one month ago, and were in no hurry to get another dog. Well I feel Lacey sent Lily to me a pitty/sheppard mix. Among all of the 50 plus dogs there she stood out. I met her for less than a minute. We left without her that day, because they started bringing my sisters dog in. ( who I later found someone wonderful to adopt her ) . Two days went by, and I just could not stop thinking about this sweet girl who stood on her hind legs and tucked her gremlin like ears back and kissed my hand. I felt an instant strong connection to her. Two days later the shelter had her at petsmart store. We went hubby was interested in a Lab. Well we glanced at Lily in the cage (then called Dora ) and left to go back to the shelter. Well there was this sweet husky so we decided to adopt her. Well she was going to a prison training program, and we would not get her for 12 weeks. So we decided to go back to petsmart one more time. The Lab my hubby wanted was being adopted by that family. So I talked him into taking the pitty for a walk. We walked around the corner, sat on a bench. She layed her sweet head on his lap, in less than five minutes we decided to take her home. In our 20 months with her she helped us get over Lacey’s death. Helped my husband, my senior dog and myself lose weight and improve quality in life because she needed to get out and burn some energy. Our 1st and senior baby got kennel cough from our trips to the park. Blessing in disguise. She had a growth on her head that took away her hearing. So she needed antibiotic. Well it ended up just being an infected cyst that almost went away, and her hearing returned. She taught our senior Nakita how to eat rawhide, and get into creeks, ect. Nakita also was diagnosed with dog breast cancer. Lily helped us get through her death 9/2015. Fast forward to 12/2015 she barley showed any signs of being sick. Her tummy was just a little swollen. We just thought she was tired hanging out lazy, because I was sick for the last 2 weeks of December. She was diagnosed with blood cancer, a large tumor in her heart, a huge tumor on her liver, pushing all her insides several inches down towards the rear, one and a 1/2 collapsed lungs, and dried blood in her lungs when they tried to pull fluid to help her breathe. We loved her enough to put her to rest. Well today our radio came on by itself, next to the fire that she loved. I feel it was a sign from her, but I feel like I should feel her presence, and I am not sure that I do.

    1. Dear Dawn, that certainly sounds like a sign from Lily! Whenever anything happens that might conceivably be a sign, you should always say aloud, “Thank you! Please do it again!” And don’t think in terms of your loved ones and beloved pets needing to do any particular things for you, but simply be alert to anything that they might do. We are all sensitive in different ways, so some people will indeed feel a presence but some people never will. And it’s all fine! All your beloved companion animals will be waiting for you, dear, now young and healthy and with precisely the same personalities that you’ve loved so much!

        1. Dear, all the afterlife news is so good that there are many questions I am delighted to answer. And questions about our pets have the happiest answers of all!

          1. I’m so comforted by the knowledge of knowing that I will see my beloved two Dachshund puppies that passed away while I was living in a different state taking care of my mom as her caregiver one was run over by a vehicle Terrence and Philip which is Terrence is brother passed away of old age Philip was my dog though I have been grieving for over 20 years over my two dachshund pets and your words have greatly relieved my grief knowing that they will be waiting for me thank you Roberta it’s taken 20 years to have that question answered I’ve always blamed myself felt guilty for the death of Terrance cuz he got out of the backyard through a hole that was actually repaired but he found a way out my son was the one that found him along side of the street not far from our house

          2. Tracy, the worst problem most pet parents have with the death of their dogs or cats is what is plaguing you now: guilt. You really have to forgive yourself! Your dogs have. They only forgive – they never blame us! So please forgive and feel good about yourself, that you were such a wonderful and loving companion to them, and know for certain that they will be waiting for you. Wonderfully, they always do!!

  13. Hi Roberta, I recently lost my horse Happy a week ago. He was 30, 32 year’s old, and happy till the morning he died. He was healthy at the time, but 3 week’s before started losing his appetite, and decrease in water intake gradually. When I showed up that morning he was waiting for me, but he couldn’t walk to me. I got his blanket off, and he was soaking with sweat, and laboring to breathe. I got the vet out right away, and he treated him with everything posible , but couldn’t do anything to keep him up as his balance was also failing. He fell down, and was starting to die as I held his head, petting him, and talking to him he relaxed a little. The vet recommended putting him down as he wasn’t going to make it. I stayed with him till he got sedated, and dozed off. I left before he got the final injection, as he was going to sleep. I went to my car, as I was in shock with this unexpected sudden death. Within minutes of his passing I felt a warm, and calming feeling in my stomachs. I do feel that was his energy around me. I haven’t been to the ranch since his passing, and hope his spirit is not stuck there not knowing what to do. Also, my other old horse is there still. He was in the corral next to him. 2 nights later after his death I dreamnt about him, and he seemed healthy. I was shocked in my dream that he was there since he had died, but maybe he was letting me know he is still around, and OK. I truly hope I see him again as he was the kindest horse I have ever met. He loved all animal’s, and kind to people too. A gentle soul.

    1. Oh my dear, I lost my beloved Beau in much the same way! He was a few months shy of 30 years old, and I had owned him and loved him since he was six months old. He just couldn’t get up one morning. It’s a kindness when we call the vet to ease their end.

      I am sure that Happy is fine! That dream was almost certainly a communication dream; I had one of Beau as well, a few days after his death. Beau is such a wise, strong, gentle and beautiful being that now, surprisingly, he has joined my spiritual guidance team. My primary guide has told me that during one of our meetings I asked to ride out of here on Beau, and he says “that has already been arranged.” So I will know when again I see my beautiful friend that will mean that at last I am going home!

  14. Thank you Roberta.
    You were very lucky to have had your Beau for almost 30 years. I wish I had Happy for that long, but met him at 15, and spent 16 years with him. I went to the ranch last night, and visited our other old horse Smiley. He seemed to be mimicking happy in some ways, so I’m assuming they are together. Also,Smiley spends a lot of time in the corner where Happy was put down. I’m thinking of moving him to another ranch where he has a pasture, or larger corral, and make a new start as I felt sad, and he seemed sad too.
    Thinking back a few years ago when I lost my cat I also had a dream 2nights later that she was with my other deceased cat. I didn’t recognize it at first because my other cat looked so much younger,but woke up saying that was Betty. Thank you again for everything!

    1. You’re welcome, dear! It’s wonderful that the news about our beloved animals is all so good, since I would find it heartbreaking to have to tell people otherwise. But the news is wonderful! Please let me know if you have further questions, and meanwhile please kiss Smiley on the nose for me ;-).

  15. OK. I will, but one kiss only, as Happy was very possessive of his mom. Smiley, and Happy always fought for my attention, but Happy had my heart always.

  16. Hi Roberta,
    I have a question for you. I went out to see Smiley today at the ranch. He came running over to me, pawed at the spot where happy passed, and then rolled by it. I wonder if he’s trying to tell me happy is there. He also never whinned for happy after he was taken away. Which also is odd. I’m thinking happy is staying there with smiley, and I shouldn’t move him to another ranch. What do you think? Oh, I gave him a kiss for you too!

    1. Hello dear Sheila! I do love seeing how much more cheerful and hopeful you are feeling. Knowing that Happy is now as happy as his name really does make a difference, doesn’t it? Difficult to know Why Smiley is acting as he does, but it is possible that Happy is visiting him. Animals tend to be more sensitive than we are: they often can see those who are not in body. To be frank, I don’t think that I would move Smiley just now; I think I would let him process the loss of his friend in familiar surroundings. Especially as he is an older horse, allowing him to feel safe in familiar surroundings would be a gift to him. Big hug, dear!

  17. Thank you Roberta for responding . I agree with you on leaving him be for now, maybe for good there at that ranch. Smiley, and I both loved Happy so much that his loss is so unbearable. I would like to share with you how I ended up with happy in my life. 16 years ago I lost a horse from colic that I just bought 2 weeks later she died from stones. I was heartbroken, and somehow was led to happy as he was on a rental string there where my horse died. I rode happy, and we connected instantly. The stable didn’t want to sell him to me because he was their best horse, but really depressed. The owner finally sold happy to me, and told me he saved her life in a accident she had on the ranch a few years back. So, he deserved to be with me, and have a good life. 3 years ago I almost died in the hospital from a flu virus that was attacking my brain, and almost in a coma. I remember knowing I was dying, but starting fighting thinking what would happy do without me. I woke up with the nurse crying, and saying we almost lost you twice on the table. I saved Happy’s life, and he saved mine. I thought you would like this story, as it such a powerful bond between a horse, and human. Maybe very much like you, and your beloved horse beau.

    1. Dear Sheila, I think that few people who haven’t had a long relationship with a horse can appreciate how deep the love becomes and what wonderful people the best horses really are. Beau was a wise and complex gentleman, very careful with children, very understanding, but quick to buck off anyone that he didn’t like: he was one who would not suffer fools. And he still is all of that! I am told that he has joined my spirit guidance team, which fact I find kind of boggling since I didn’t know that was even possible for horses. I am also told that I have asked to ride out on him, and my doing that has already been arranged….

  18. Hi Roberta,
    My horse Happy to was very selective on people , and other horse’s coming near him, or me. I had times where he would block me from other people he didn’t feel good about by standing in front of the two of us, and not moving. He always could read people, and I could read his thoughts that were a warning. I hope to that he has a special job like beau on the other side. Not sure what the guidance team is, but sounds like he’s working with your spirit guides, angels? I’m sure you will ride out on him too!

  19. This was a great read and a comfort for me today as we lost our beautiful sweet Himalayan cat Sasha today and we are all heartbroken. The intensity and depth of our grief is as strong as for any family member human or otherwise.Thanks for this. Peace and Light to you!

    1. Oh Bob, I’m so sorry about your loss, but I’m thrilled to be able to assure you that it is absolutely temporary! And we don’t want our beloved companions to live on here in pain and distress; it really is so much better for them to go to where they can be young, healthy, and happy forevermore. Then when eventually you get there, too, and are sitting and enjoying one of the beautiful reception gardens, Sasha will come and jump right into your lap!

  20. Roberta i just lost my dog Angel i found her 6 years ago abused and walking the streets of Detroit coverd in mange and cuts we think she was used for a bait dog for dog fighting. Well anyway we were going to find her a home but we were unsuccessful so i decided to keep her. She ended up being the most sweet kind hearted dog i ever seen i loved her she loved me she always waited for me in the window and i would give her a kiss on the forhead when i left for work every day. Well sunday she seemed sick like she had a cold i took her to the vet they said she had a infection and it was not a big deal. The next day i gave her a kiss on the forhead coverd her up her tail was wagging becuse she was happy. Rite when i was leaving work to come home i got a call from my girlfriend frantically asking where i was she was like Angel is dieing i was about 20 min from home i herd her die on the phone on my way home. We found her 6 years to the day that she died. Im so upset and sad i can barely work or anything. I think its so crazy she got sick 1 day then died the next. I read all the posts and it gives me hope that shes ok and in a better place but i feel broken. I keep hopeing i have a dream about her but i have not yet. I thank you and everyone for there storys on this page it dose help but i am still so sad. I just hope every second i will see her again. Thank you for the good info and everything you do. ..Jason

    1. Oh dear Jason, I have been doing afterlife research for half a century, and of all the things that afterlife researchers know, the most certain is that the animals we love will be waiting there for us, now whole and healthy but otherwise exactly the same as they were before! It is likely that you aren’t perceiving signs from Angel because your own grief is blocking them, so it’s essential that you do everything you can to convince yourself that she is fine. If you would like PDFs of The Fun of Dying and The Fun of Staying in Touch, I will be glad to send them if you will send me a contact email through this website.

      Angel may have been older than you thought she was when you found her. It’s likely that if she had lived longer, her course in old age would have been painful for her and the end would have been no different, so I hope you can see that your letting her go just briefly is a gift to her. It feels tragic, doesn’t it, that dogs have such brief lives here? But they will live on with us eternally, dear. Please know that fact, and all will be well!

  21. very uplifting site..
    one week ago today my best friend Max an 8 year old Mini Schnauzer died suddenly. he was very healthy im still in shock over this.. he was playful eating and was normal, we went to my room as he sleeps with me every night I started to pet him and he took 2 deep breaths and went limp all within prob 10 seconds. I really am distraught and begging for signs that he is ok and knows how much I love him.. and that he will be with me when its my turm to go.
    he is the reason I wanted to go home at nights. and I am now concerned of the 12 yr old shitzu I have that losing his brother is going to kill him also he has bad back legs to begin with. if my Max was going to try and communicate with me would he have done it by now?
    I am so sad wondering if I did or didn’t do something I should have, feeling guilty but I know he had a great life it was just to early for him to pass

    1. Oh my dear, I’m so sorry that you have temporarily lost your friend, but please know that this doesn’t mean that you did something wrong! I’m sure it was a health issue of some kind. Our domestic dogs are so highly bred now that they carry various kinds of heart and other health problems, and there was surely nothing you could have done in this case to change the outcome. So please don’t blame yourself!

      Many of our beloved pets do give us signs of our survival, but for you to be deep in grief can actually make that more difficult for Max. Please try to comfort yourself, be certain that he will be waiting for you, and open your heart so he can get through to you; and if you can do that well, then it is likely that he will send you some sort of sign. Above all, dear, don’t feel guilty! Max is young and happy now and waiting for you, and since he isn’t going to experience time as you will, it will seem to be just a moment or two before you join him there, after a good, long life here. There really is nothing but good news!

  22. I put my dog Brandi, a Shih Tzu, to sleep last October. She was 15 and 5 months old. She had eye ulcerations and a heart murmur. I had to have one of her eyes removed about 10 months before she died. I was grooming her and accidentally scratched her Cornea. I took her to the vet right away and he said it healed. Two days later the cornea ulcer destroyed her entire eye. The vet told me it was gone. I gave her all the help I could going to vets and taking care of her eye. Then the other eye ulcerated. I medicated her until she died with eye gel everyday. Almost two years. I put her down after she had a small seizure at the vet. We were about to go home and right in front of the examining room door she had the seizure. The vet felt it might be a brain tumor. I feel guilty till this day. I can’t stand to walk where we walked together. Memories of her with me put me in tears. I can’t stand to go to the park. My home is empty without her. I had one dream of her jumping on the couch. But reading other stories I never got a sign that would comfort me. I was upset at times, very stressed but she knew she was my Baby. Right before I put her down maybe a week I said crying “Brandi how am I going to live without you?” She was not responding to me in her usual way. I thought she had dementia. When I went out she wandered aimlessly never sitting down till I got home. So I never left her alone for long. I have a Yorkie who was her sister. Now the Yorkie is very sick. She is also depressed losing Brandi. Maybe Brandi is upset with me and doesn’t want to contact me. I never loved anyone like I loved her. She has to know. I sometimes sit and cry over her being gone – it is like she took my heart with her. I never got one sign or felt her near me since she died. I hope she knew everything I did was out of love for her. Sometimes I got upset with her but mostly love and hugs. All o know if there is a doggie heaven I hope she knows how much I love her and putting her down was for her to not suffer with a brain tumor or seizures snd me not being able to watch her suffer. Now I am worried about my sick Yorkie who is very ill. Maybe losing Brandi sped up her disease of an enlarged heart and possibly cancer. They can’t even biopsy her because of heart I guess so I take it day by day with her and I can’t believe both my dogs won’t be with me.

    1. I’m so sorry for your pain! Please know that your little Brandi is certainly well and happy and she loves you! In all my decades of doing this research, I have never encountered a single situation in which a dog who had transitioned did not absolutely adore its human friends left behind, and of course many (most?) of these dogs also had been given the gift of vet-assisted release by those who loved them. They simply don’t think as we do, dear; they blame us for nothing, but they only absolutely and completely love us! Your dream was probably a sign from Brandi – especially if the dream is still pretty vivid – and the likely reason for your not having received clear and recognizable signs is your level of grief. Sadly, deep grief can act as an absolute barrier to communication, so I urge you strongly to get yourself out of this funk. You don’t deserve to do this to yourself! Please help your little Yorkie to transition as well so she won’t suffer, either, and then ask them if one or both of them will please reincarnate for you (this often happens). See if you feel guided to a breeder. You can love again, dear, and whether or not one of your beloved dogs has reincarnated for you, they will be thrilled to have you again enjoying a little furry companion!

  23. Hi Roberta, I had to put my very best friend Dixie down last night. An absolutely beautiful 45 lb Ridgeback mix. Her beauty on the inside matched her beauty on the inside. She just turned 13 and the vet told me she was well and would have no problems going to 15+. Well she started losing her appetite and weight rather quickly the last few weeks and even had to go through a terrible vestibular infection about two months ago that they had thought was brain cancer. After helping her back to health, he ruled out brain cancer. Thought she was in the clear. Only to show after an ultrasound yesterday cancer in her stomach and kidney. I could tell she was to far gone in her eyes and body. I would not allow her to suffer, she was to good of a dog to deserve that. So I had to do the most difficult thing in my life and say goodbye. She was a rescue dog at a Petsmart in Georgia and was only a 1/2 hour away from being put down. Second Chance Adoption saved her and I will be forever grateful. I got 11 wonderful years with this beautiful creature. She will be missed immensely. I talked to an Animal Communicator and she said that animals could come back in different forms or animals. What is your thought on that? I am looking so forward to seeing my best friend again. I sure hope that it happens! I love you forever Dixie!

    1. Hello Scott! I’m sorry about your temporary separation from Dixie, but fortunately the news is all good: we have abundant evidence that every animal we ever have loved is waiting for us in the afterlife levels, now young and healthy. And since time operates very differently there, it won’t even seem to her that much time will pass before you join her there, even if it’s a half-century of earth-time! Yes, occasionally the reincarnation of dogs has been reported fairly convincingly, but there is no need to hope for that when you know for certain that she will be waiting for you and you WILL be with her again, forevermore. Meanwhile, I’m sending you a hug!

  24. Thanks for the quick reply. Do you think that Dixie is a dog again or is it possible another animal? I am so looking forward to being with her again, the time went by so fast!

    1. Dear Scott, I have seen no evidence that animals change species at all, and never mind this quickly! She is a dog, now again young and beautiful. And she will be licking your face again before you know it ;-).

  25. Reading this helping me. My 14 year old bunny, Jimmy Jam, is still with me but I have found myself getting sad about the end. I know he won’t live forever and he has already overcome tumors, cancers, infection and other health issues. He is so strong and my best friend. He is my first pet on my own and has seen me through everything. I don’t want to be away from him and I want to know that I will be with him again. My science mind and spiritual heart fight for attention but hearing someone assure me that death is not the end strengthens my faith.

    1. Dear Alisa, please know that your beloved bunny will be waiting for you, now healthy and happy and young! As so many have said, it wouldn’t be a heaven if it didn’t include our beloved companion animals, and indeed it does include ALL of them! They naturally have much shorter earth-lives than hours, but you can feel comfortable in letting him go, dear. He will be loved and cared for until you can pick him up and hold him again ;-).

  26. Thank you for your kind words. The hard part is the not being able to see them and touch them during that waiting period. I’m soaking up whatever time I have left so I can hopefully hold on to that feeling until we meet again.

    1. It’s good to give an older beloved companion animal a lot of affection for many reasons, not least of which is the fact that we want their bonding on us to be very tight when they leave their bodies. Then, simply keep him in your heart! You may find that if you are open to it, he will soon give you little signs of his survival. If anything that happens ever seems to be from him, be sure to thank him and ask him for more! I’m sending you a hug, dear.

  27. Thank you for sharing this. I cried so hard when I lost my Gabe–she was an older cat, but it came without warning–she’d always behaved much younger than her years, then one day things went bad, I took her to the doctor and they said it was her time…

    But reading your words have made me cry happy tears. I so hope it’s true. Do our pets get to spend time with our loved ones who’ve already crossed? Before we “get there?”

    1. Hello Jon! Yes, indeed it’s true that our beloved animals are all there, now young and healthy, and from their point of view it will be only moments before we arrive to hug and love them again. Their situation upon arrival is pretty much like that of our children: if we have transitioned loved ones they were close to in life, they may live with those loved ones while they wait for us; but since for most there aren’t those loving connections, they live with others of their kind in group homes, cared for and loved by gentle souls who have been specially chosen for these roles. That seems to be what makes our animal friends happiest. But, no worries, Jon! Gabe is perfectly fine, healthy and happy, and still the exact same cat that she was before. The evidence for this happy fact is entirely consistent and overwhelming!

  28. Just reading these letters re in forces my belief, which I always had that I will see my babies that have gone from here to the Rainbow Bridge….I truly believe that, recently lost one cat in June, she was my Baby Girl, lost her to having her anesthetized for an xray of throat and one in July due to Cancer.I still hurt and cry. Lost more thru the years. there never here long enough. Want to order your book and maybe find answers to a lot of questions.

    1. Oh Cindy, please know that your little friends are fine! And they’re all healthy and happy and young again, which to me is the most wonderful part: our animals babies are eternally young and beautiful! You will be able to pet and play with all of them again, and you’ll have them with you forevermore if that is your wish. Claim and own that fact! And meanwhile, I’m sending you a big hug ;-).

  29. Hi Roberta, I lost my 10 year old cat 2 weeks ago very suddenly and unexpectedly, I’m broken-hearted. I have been left with guilt and regrets with her going so quickly, no time to say goodbye or tell her how much I love her. I hand reared her as her 4 siblings died not long after birth and her mother didn’t want to know, my dog at the time mothered her and I lost him when Kit was 6 months old, I’d like to think she’s with him now. We were very close and she followed me all round the house, now everywhere I look there’s memories of where she slept, where she sat, where she died, I didn’t realise how much I took having her with me for granted, and it’s killing me, it’s so bad I can’t stay in this house anymore, I need to move. I have another cat who is now grieving for her and that is also breaking my heart seeing her looking round for Kit and looking so lonely and lost. The day she died I sat up all night in shock and at 4.30 am I sat outside just staring into space, then all of a sudden I saw a bird fly close by to me, it turned out to be a robin and I just pray that was a sign to say she’s ok. Sorry if this is long, but it’s just all going round my head continuously and I think I’m going mad. X

    1. Oh my dear Tracey, please be at peace! Your cat knew – and knows – that you love her, and there was no need for you to ever tell her goodbye because between the two of you there never will be a goodbye. Truly! Every companion animal we ever have loved is waiting for us, now young and healthy, usually in a group home with other animals to play with; and if your dog and cat were close, then they are likely together. Grief is tough, I know! But please know at least that you have nothing to feel guilty about, no reason whatsoever for regrets, and the prospect of the most joyous possible reunion. It is guaranteed. Meanwhile, you might think about getting a rescue kitty to act as a companion for your surviving cat, and also to give you the chance to love again. Kit won’t mind at all; in fact, there are documented cases where a deceased pet came back as the new pet. Truly, completely, all is well! Meanwhile, please consider yourself hugged ;-).

  30. Thank you so much Roberta, it’s very much appreciated, I know in the midst of grieving there are no words that can make it all better, but your words give me some comfort in knowing that my Kit knows I love her and I know your right when you say there was no need for goodbyes as we will be together again. Kit was very close to my dog and looked at him as her mother and I remember when he died she spent hours looking for him and crying, so I know now they will be together again. It hurts me that I can’t just pick her up and cuddle her, and I keep thinking back to the times when I had all those chances to do that and I never did as I would be busy doing house work etc, but I suppose in time I will remember the cuddles that we did have and the fact she went through thick and thin with me for 10 years, she knew when I was upset as she would come and sit with me more. I have 2 dogs aswell, so not sure about another kitten, but wouldn’t say never. Would you say the robin was a sign to say she’s ok, thank you for the hug, it’s much needed. X

  31. Hi Roberta,
    I had my dog Abbey put to Sleep on the 1st of July 2016, she would of been 12 this December, i had her since she was 11 weeks old, She was a big dog cross Rottie and German Shepherd but look like a Labrador but wasn’t. The morning we had her put to sleep she had, had some sort of Seizure fit in the chair that morning at 7am, her legs were not good and we felt she had been ill for a while, and the vet thought it was right to put her to sleep without putting her through any more stress with test and things, and felt it was the right thing to do. I have felt a bit guilty and thought should i have brought her home, and feel somehow we made the right decision. I have another dog Rolo who missed her dearly. I have got Abbey’s ashes as i felt this is what i wanted a way of keeping her in the family. Please can you tell me if i did the right thing. Thank you Juliet x

    1. Dear Juliet, you did exactly the right thing! Abbey was clearly ready to transition, and you did the most loving thing for her that you could possibly have done. Bless you for that! No need to hold onto her ashes, since she isn’t any part of those ashes now; instead, she is young and healthy again and running and playing with other dogs who also are waiting for their people to arrive. Time is very different there, and even if you don’t get there for very many decades it is going to seem to her like just a little while before she is joyously with you again!

  32. Hi Roberta,
    Found your blog after losing my cat in July and being so devastated at a very unexpected loss, looking for hope. Thank you for this blog and putting this info into the universe 🙂
    Since losing my sweet Tiger Bones, I believe I’ve seen him, and my husband as well, on different occasions, a week apart from each other. When it happened I immediately thought of this very blog and your mention of animals belonging to a soul source and once they form an attachment to a human, do they then receive an identity. My question to you is, is it possible for animals to roam here who don’t have an identity yet, to be used as a vessel more or less, for our departed animals to inhabit briefly, to show themselves to us?
    I hope that doesn’t sound too nuts ahahah but this is what I believe has been the case for the two situations in which I believe my husband and I each saw Tiger. Like he’s swinging by to let us know he’s around and OK….is this something common, you’ve seen?
    Thanks Roberta!
    Love and light to you 🙂

    1. Hello Jill! This is a good question – thank you for asking it. I don’t confirm anything unless there is considerable consistent evidence for it, so I can’t say for certain that our animals are able to take over the bodies of living animals; but there are some tantalizing bits of evidence that indeed something like that does happen. Certainly, people are able to influence the minds of lower-level creatures like insects, birds, and the like. They always request and receive permission from the creature first. And since animals share a species-specific “group soul” – that’s the term that is used – they are likely very much in tune with others of that same species. So it would not be at all surprising to learn of instances where a companion animal requested and received permission to make use of a living same-species animal as a way to communicate with a beloved person. Fascinating, and in my view entirely possible!

  33. Rascal, my 18 year old cat slipped out the front door without anyone seeing him. We searched for 10 hours trying to find him and bring Him home. I left the outside lights on for him that night so he could find his way back to us. I checked the porches every hour throughout the night. I finally fell asleep and had a very quick but vivid picture of Rascal and then a vivid red heart. It woke me out of my sleep. I wasn’t sure if it was a sign from Rascal or a sign that he’d be home. We did get a tip the next day that they saw Rascal the previous afternoon. We all spread out and searched the woods. My husband found our sweet boy laying in a clearing. He had passed. My heart is broken. I can’t stop crying because of the loss. Do you think that was a sign from Rascal or just a dream?

    1. Hello Sheila! If the dream remains vivid in your mind beyond 12 hours or so, then it is almost certainly a communication. Your little friend is fine! It is not uncommon for all of us – people and animals – to want to be alone as we transition, and so it seems to have been for him. Please be comforted to know that he is beyond pain, young and healthy again, and waiting for you in the care of loving people. If you can get your grief tamped down enough, you may well get further signs from him. Meanwhile, I’m sending you a hug!

  34. Hi Roberta, my 13 year old cat Jada, was diagnosed with nasal cancer and I’m going to put her down this week because she is not doing too well. She has been such a loving and faithfull companion and it breaks my heart, but I feel I need to set her free from her suffering. Thank you for your blog and all your responses, it is helping me get through this time. I am a member of an ancient mystical order (the rosicrucians) who teach exactly what you have said, animals have soul groups they return to but those touched by human love, affection, and care, develop a distinct individual personality (thank you for your reassurance and sharing of knowledge on this point). I hope time for Jada after she passes will seem like a short time before she is reunited with me since I am 37 and hope to live a long life. blessings to you for your compassion and sharing of wisdom with other.

    1. Oh David, I’m so glad to be able to help you! It’s wonderful that the news is so good, isn’t it? Every one of our beautiful, beloved companion animals is young and healthy and happily thriving there as they wait for us! Just hug Jada tight and let her slip out of that damaged body, knowing that as she leaves she truly is being set free.

  35. Hi Roberta, This morning/ hours ago as I live in Europe/ I accidentally came over your blog and started reading and I must say you are a true blessing, a gift from god. I am not really religious, but I do believe in afterlife, I believe in some Power/Oneness. Please excuse my English, we speak different language here.
    I truly admire your intelligence, empathy, compassion, knowledge, your
    refined manners with a sense of duty to follow your calling, to make it easier for us to understand. My days on this planet are numbered, I have no fear, all I wish is to be with my dogs again. I long to see my wonderful mother, my beloved grandparents, my friends, but yet if I had to choose between them and my dogs I would choose my dogs! And I can’t even say how bad this makes my feel.

    1. I’m so glad that you have found us, Lelja! And your English is wonderful; I would have thought you a native-speaker.

      The very good news is that you won’t have to choose between your human loved ones and your canine loved ones! All are healthy and young now and waiting for you, and they’re planning the biggest party of your life. You’ll get to live with any of them you like, and you can spend time with any of them you like, and no one will resent it if you choose different companions or if you want to change companions. The place where you are going is love and joy and peace, dear Lelja. Be happy that you are about to go home! The hard part of life is over now, and the wonderful part begins.

      I’m sending you a big trans-Atlantic hug!

  36. Hello Roberta,
    Today I had to do the hardest thing ever….I put down my 14 year old Cocker Spaniel who’s name is Kipper. He was having some complications with a mass that was spreading into his chest and I took him to the vet and we spoke about amputating the left arm so that he can live another two years or so but when they read the x-rays, they found cancer of the lungs. Today I believe he had a stroke because he lost much of his coordination. I rushed him to the vet and we decided to give him his peace and put him down. I have read all the posts and comments about an afterlife but on other sites I am reading that the bible does not have evidence of an afterlife for animals because they have souls but not spirits and also because they were not created in the image of God. I want to know that Kipper is ok and that I will someday see him again. How are you so certain that this will happen for all of us. Please help to have a piece of mind. Thank you.

    1. Dear Debbie, one of the things of which afterlife researchers are most certain is that all animals that have been loved by a human being develop eternal individual lives and are waiting for us, now young and healthy and happy. Animals are indeed of a different class than people, and they have what are called species-specific “group souls” to which they return at death. It is human love that gives to those animals we love an individual existence. I know this seems too good to be true, but a lot of what we have learned about the afterlife seems too good to be true! And the evidence is abundant and overwhelming that EVERY beloved animal survives death as an individual. This is not a theory. This is a certainty!

      Please ignore the Bible. The only part of it that we can validate as coming from God is the Gospels – four books! – and since the Council of Nicaea in 325 edited and added things to the Gospels we can’t even validate every word of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. The rest of the Bible was written by fallible human beings who meant well, but they simply didn’t know what we now know. The souls/spirits dichotomy is nonsense! And the “image of God” stuff is a human distinction, not a distinction that God makes. For God, the only thing that matters is LOVE. And no loving God would allow you to love Kipper so much and then take him away from you. In your heart I think you already know this. God is pure and infinite love, and you in particular are God’s best-beloved child, so please be content in the certainty that your love for Kipper has given him an independent existence. Go on to make the most of this life – if you’ll send me a contact through this website I’ll send you a PDF of The Fun of Growing Forever to help you do that – and hold Kipper tight in your heart with the certainty that you will be reunited with him in a place where the two of you can be forever young!

      1. First, I would like to say that your words for me and many other animal lovers are so much needed and very much appreciate. Everything you said is exactly how I feel in my heart regarding the love that God allowed me to give to Kipper in the 14 years that I had him. I just can not bring myself to believe that an animal would not be allowed into heaven. All they know is LOVE and God is LOVE as you stated. All my concern was is to know that my guy is in a better place and that he is not missing me. We lived together alone for many years and when I would come home from work or from anywhere for that matter he would behave as though he hadn’t seen me in years. Now that I am not with him, that is my concern that he is suffering not having me around. I guess what I am saying is that my heart will become content when I know that he is happy and healthy again and that he is not missing me. Thank you so much for your quick response and I would love to read your book. You can send the pdf to DebCorrea73@icloud.com.

        God bless you Robert Grimes!

        best regards,
        DebCorrea

        1. Time essentially does not exist beyond this level of reality, and he is in a group home with loving caretakers and other dogs to play with. So it’s going to seem like no time at all passes before you arrive to pick him up, and meanwhile he is having lots of fun!

  37. My spaniel mix, Jilly, passed away last Wednesday November 2. It left me so devastated. I was not ready, even though I know she was not altogether healthy. She was at the groomers, had been suffering from worsening heart failure, but seemed to be fairly stable. She was put in a kennel to rest for a few minutes, went to sleep and didn’t wake up. She was a brave, adorable girl whose tail never stopped wagging. I was so devoted to her, as she was to me. I went out of town on the next day after to visit my daughter, and returned on Saturday. Her brother, Jack, and I went out for a walk that afternoon, and that’s when I started finding feathers. The first one was right in front of the place she would always pause to tinkle, then I kept finding others: small white, then black, white and gray feathers, all along our usual path. I can’t tell you the feeling I had when I found the first one. I have never really been one to look for and believe in signs from beyond, but I believe this was Jilly communicating with me. It has really helped me cope. What do you think?

    1. Wow, Kathy, that’s beautiful! It’s unusual for animals to give us object-signs, but clearly those feathers were signs from her! My hunch is that if you have a close loved one in spirit that loved one may have been helping Jilly so she could give you signs that were so obvious that you could not ignore them. They are telling you that Jilly is fine, young and healthy again, and eager to once again kiss your face! If you would like a copy of The Fun of Staying in Touch, please send me a contact email through this website. And hug close those signs from her – now you’re sure that she is fine!

    1. I have another few items to share. I continue to find a feather every now and then. I had a particularly hard cry earlier this week, missing Jilly. I took our other dog, Jack, out for a walk a bit later, and there was another feather, just like the others I have found, in the usual spot. Also, one of my close friends had lost one of her dogs to lung disease a few days after Jilly died. We discussed my feathers just yesterday. She really misses her Mocha, and had taken her Louie out for a walk this morning. She and I are both a bit skeptical about signs, but low and behold, she found a feather this morning while walking Louie, and had never found one before. She was feeling really sad about Mocha and there it was. So, now we are both becoming much less skeptical and believing these are really signs from our babies. It is something to celebrate.

      1. If your beloved little friends are opening the two of you to beginning to understand that you and they really are eternal, then that is an incomparable gift!

  38. I lost my closest friend Dodger 3 months ago. He was my main source of happiness. He died in an fortunate way only 8 years old. I’ve only felt him once sleeping beside me the morning after he died. M not able to let go of him. I imagine him in at home and running up the stairs whenever I come home and feel happy but actually he’s not there. I haven’t received any signs of him at all and that worries me since we were have such an immensely strong bonding. What am I to believe?

    1. I’m so sorry, Dane – it’s terrible to lose someone you love, whether furry or not! Please be comforted to know that he is indeed at home now, in the truest sense, healthy and happy and forever young and eager to greet you when you go home as well! That you felt him sleeping beside you on the morning after he died was an extraordinary sign! Many animals and people will give us just one clear sign, then go on to enjoy the post-death realities. He may give you more, and just to make certain that you spot them I would be happy to send you a copy of The Fun of Staying in Touch if you will send me your email address through this website’s contact block and request the book. Meanwhile, I’m sending you a hug!

  39. I lost my special little girl – Chloe – on Wednesday of this week. She was a Standard Poodle and we had the blessing of having her with us for 12 years. It was a complication of a very aggressive stomach cancer. I have prayed and meditated and prayed and meditated and have begged for some sort of a sign that she is with God. I haven’t seen a sign yet and I have to say that I’m heartbroken. I would not feel so anxious about the loss of a a close human friend as I truly know that they’ll be “home” again. But someone told me once when I was a child that animals don’t go to heaven. That conversation has haunted me my entire life. It makes me ill to think that Chloe has just been extinguished from her beautiful self to nothing at all.

    1. Hello and welcome! I’m very sorry to hear about your loss, but of course you know that twelve years is a good, long life for a larger dog. And she is for certain absolutely fine! One of the areas of this field where the evidence is most abundant and consistent is this, so we can state as fact that every animal that has been loved by a human being is alive in the afterlife, now young and healthy and waiting with joy to meet us. They are exactly the same personalities that they were when here! Whoever told you otherwise simply was unaware of how consistent and overwhelming the evidence is. So of course she is fine, and she may be sending signs, although animal signs are much less common than are signs from people. If you would like some help in looking for signs, please just send me a contact through this website and I will send you a PDF of The Fun of Staying in Touch. But whether or not you ever get signs, please be comforted to know that she is just fine!

  40. Thank you so much for writing this. My son has just lost his beloved Cocoa and I was scouring the internet for help with his coping. I think this article will definitely help him. He is worried because he heard in a church group that only humans have an afterlife and he thinks that means he will never get to see cocoa again. I think this will bring him some comfort.

    1. Hello Jamie! Please hug your son for me and tell him that God is perfect love and would never allow him to love so much and then to lose. That nonsense is a human teaching (as is so much that Christianity now espouses) – it did not come from Jesus! I have seen many first-hand accounts of the joyous reunions of people with their dogs, and I myself have been assured that my beloved horse is going to arrive at my deathbed so I can ride out on him! Upper-level beings tell us that our minds are extremely powerful and it is our own love for them that gives our animals eternal life in the afterlife levels.

      I don’t know your son’s age, but he might find Flying High in Spirit comforting. Mikey Morgan is a very advanced being who took a brief voluntary earth-lifetime so he would be able to better understand and teach modern people, and the first thing he did when he got back home was to fetch his golden retriever from the group home where she was waiting for him!

  41. Hello Roberta!

    I must say that I found this article as well as the comments of others to be very reassuring. My beloved kitty walked on this November; her health was rapidly failing and my family and I decided that it was best to give her mercy. She was nearly eighteen years old (as am I), and my parents adopted her just before my birth.

    I love to tell the story of how she came to be with us. She got a second chance as an Earthly being when my mother and father found her huddled beneath the stairs of the rural apartment house they were renting. The landlord was irresponsible (to put it kindly) and did not care for the many animals she kept. The litter of kittens into which mine was born did not survive; they had been born in a stall in the stable. The stall’s tenant, an ill-tempered, broken, abused Arabian horse, killed each of the kittens and gravely wounded the mama cat. Only the kitten that was to become ours was spared, and barely. She had been picked up by the tail and thrown at the wall, and how she survived that I do not know. My parents saw the resulting carnage, but did not believe there to be any survivors until they heard tiny, plaintive cries drifting up from beneath a staircase. There they found our tiny kitten, helpless, her beautifully patterned fur matted with blood. They got her to a veterinarian as quickly as possible, and they treated her but did not expect her to survive. She developed double pneumonia twice before she was a year old, and just kept fighting. I’m told that she was always protective of me after I was born… and she remained so for 17 years — which, I must say, is impressive for a cat that wasn’t expected to live past its first birthday.

    We made the most difficult decision I’ve been a part of when we chose to end her suffering. She was losing weight rapidly, her kidneys were failing, and it appeared that she had had a stroke at some point. She hid in the back of the closet, and we visited her often in her last days to tell us how much we loved her. I apologized for any harm I may have caused her. I asked her to send me a sign if she found herself in another realm after leaving this world.

    She walked on on November 13th, 2016.

    I have yet to receive a sign from her, and this hurts. I have been skeptical of an afterlife for some time — it just seems so illogical to me, but I know that my spirit and the bit of my intellect that deals with rational, mainstream science are at war now. It’s something I began to wonder about (I’ve been secure in my beliefs up to this point, mind you), following several deaths this year — both human and nonhuman. Some days I can believe, other days I can not. Then, of course, the larger questions I ask branch into smaller questions:

    “Forever is a long time. Wouldn’t it get boring? I mean, I’m bored now.”
    “Will I be able to do everything I enjoy here, on the Other Side?”
    “Will I wake up there and constantly be worried I’m imagining the whole thing? In that case, forever would be awful.”

    By far, however, my most nagging question is, “Why hasn’t my kitty made contact with me if she’s really anywhere?” I wonder now, after reading your article, she made contact and I missed it due to my over analyzing of everything in these past months. If she is somewhere, I hope it’s beautiful.

    I got a bit long-winded, but if you can help with any of my questions, that would be exquisite. Thank you again; it really helped me to cope even if I have trouble believing it completely.

    1. Oh Anna, please know that your beloved cat is purrfectly fine! It is indeed possible that you missed her signs, since most animal signs are subtle and you wouldn’t have known what to look for; and it is possible, too, that your grief hindered her ability to communicate with you (grief is a very low-vibration energy, so this kind of blockage happens often). But she is fine! As for your other questions, if you will send me a contact through this website I will be happy to send you PDFs of books that will help you better understand your own eternal nature, what happens at death, and how it is indeed possible to have an eternal life that doesn’t ever get boring! Meanwhile, I’m sending you a hug. You write beautifully for someone so young, and my hope is that you will use that gift!

      1. Hello, again.

        Thank you for responding so quickly. You are truly a lovely soul, and your wisdom is brilliant.

        My email address is Anna.Kopetsky@gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you, and reading more of what you have to say.

        I hope you have a wonderful evening! 🙂
        Anna

  42. Hello Robert, I came across this blog looking for comfort and hope after my beloved Yorkie died of sudden renal failure on November, 17, 2016. She was 3 days shy of her 12th birthday. She was the light and love of my life. My heart is shattered and I miss her so terribly. She was diabetic for a year and a half but was doing well. She suddenly got sick, stopped eating. She had always been a great eater. She was hospitalized for 6 days to receive supportative care for acute kidney failure. She did come home, but lasted 2 days and went into renal failure. We had to make the dreadful decision to let her go. She was the sweetest girl ever. She really stole my heart and she was always my number one priority. I feel so very sad and empty. Your article gives me hope that I will see her again and that she is ok somewhere beautiful. Naturally I do have doubts. She has sent me signs. I sometimes smell her or feel her around me. The most visible sign I received was the day after she died. I was lying in bed crying and crying. I asked God for a sign to let me know she is ok. I turned and looked at a painting that I have had for many years. I immediately see a cloud formation of what looks like my Emmy’s head. I have never before noticed it. Maybe it was always there, but I truly believed I noticed it that day to assure me that she is ok. I have also seen lots of rainbows on tv, social media and in paintings I see in stores. I hope these are all signs from my Emmy telling me she is ok. Thank you for writing this article and bringing some hope in a time when my heart is hopeless and broken.

    1. Oh my dear JoAnn, of course she is fine! You are receiving wonderful signs from her of the sort that animals sometimes give to us, but signs from our beloved animals are rarer than are signs from people so you are especially blessed! Please dry your eyes now and go on with living your best possible life – you know that is what she wants you to do. Be comforted and uplifted to know that one day before you know it you will arrive in an extraordinarily beautiful, earth-like place, and she will jump into your arms!

  43. Hi Roberta, thank you for responding. Thank you for your comforting words. I have also dreamt of her playfing with her toys, happy and healthy. She has given me kisses in my dreams. I also dreamt of her in the arms of my deceased Mom. I hope these are all signs that she is ok and happy. Thank you again. Have a wonderful day!

    1. Actually, Pamela, I know of two dogs that apparently reincarnated and were found and bought by the same owners – this connection was confirmed by a medium. And according to the owners, they even have all their old pets’ personality traits!

      1. Dear Roberta, can you please share the medium’s name? I would love to contact her as I’m going through a similar experience.

        1. Hello Mimi! I’m sorry, but I really don’t know of any reliable animal communicators. I wish I did know of someone, since so many would love to hear from their beloved pets!

  44. Hi Roberta it’s todd again wrote to u in may 2016 about my best friend max whom died suddenly. Now needing help with my elderly dog Bob I’ve had 12 and a half years he drags his back leg badly has been for a long time can’t bare putting him down but should I? He’s a shit shitzu. Still eats and no boo boos in the house but can’t do much. Do I put him down? Hating it

    1. I understand, Todd. Saying goodbye is hard. But all the evidence indicates that our animal friends are grateful when we help them to pass from lives that have become painful and difficult! At once they are young and happy and playing with others of their kind as they wait for us. Of course that is what you want for Bob! I had to have my cherished horse put down at almost 30 years old – I had owned him his whole life! – so I know that it rips your heart out even to think of finally making that call. But four days later my Beau thanked me by appearing as his now-young-and-beautiful self in a communication dream that I cherish to this day! It’s difficult for you, but it’s a gift for him. Please give Bob his favorite snack and then hold him in your arms and look into his eyes and tell him how much you love him, and let your vet assist him as he goes ahead to wait for you. He will be so grateful!

  45. Hi Roberta,
    I came across this site a few days before we needed to euthanize our sweet little Havanese, Ollie. He was only 7 when he died, and had a short life of many illnesses from the start. We found out he had kidney failure two weeks ago, and we knew that this illness, unlike the others, would be his last. We couldnt bare to see him suffer so we prepared ourselves and asked for a “sign” as to when exactly it would be done. He had a “good” day the day before his death. My daughter took the day off from school to spend time with him, and he ate and drank for her, let her brush him, and didnt shake with pain like he had days before. But that night, he awoke me from sleep and let me know it was time. Aside from my son who was at college and had to facetime his beloved buddy a goodbye, the rest of our family was with Ollie when he passed, comforting him and telling him we loved him with continuous tears. Absolutely the worst moment of my life. But my husband said at the moment of Ollie’s death, he felt a huge wave of peace. All I felt for two days was pure grief and loneliness.
    I have been asking Ollie to send me a sign that he is okay and last night I had a vivid dream. I was lying on my back and it was very hot and I was dehydrated and sweating, and suddenly a cool mist was being sprayed on me. I felt so much better and I looked around and sitting on a bench beside me was Ollie, and he was the one who was spraying me with the cool water. I immediately woke up and felt at peace.
    I had devoted my life to his for 7 years, not being able to work outside the home, or take a vacation with my family because Ollie needed medications around the clock and nobody would help. With him gone, I need to find purpose with my life, and from the dream I had, I feel like Ollie was taking care of me in my grief.
    When I awoke this morning, my husband said to me “I had a very vivid dream of Ollie last night. He was talking to me on a bench, and it didn’t really make sense but your sister was in it and she was talking in jibberish and Ollie was beside her sitting still”. Just some background for you..I havent spoken to my sister in about 7 years (the time we got Ollie) because we had a family fight over something that didn’t make much sense.
    Do you think this was Ollie communicating with both my husband and I in our dreams, and is he telling me from my husbands dream that I should talk to my sister? Thank you for your insight, your expertise and stories are very comforting.

    1. YES!! He is thanking you and telling you to get on with your life, and to reconnect with your sister as a first step! Our beloved pets, once they transition, become very much aware of our larger life picture, and their communications will sometimes show that they are aware of things that in their little animal bodies they likely would not have known. How beautiful!

      And if you need a further little sign from Ollie, you should know that you have just reached out to someone whose father’s name was Ollie ;-).

  46. Hi Roberta, a little over a week ago, we had to put my beloved cat Cuddles down and I wish we never had to. In december, my boyfriend brought his mom’s cat up here cause she passed away. We thought since they were sisters they would get along, but I guess being apart for over 5 years, changed that. So we had to put Cuddles in the bedroom and we let her out to see if she would be nice to the other cat and even after getting both of them fixed, Cuddles didn’t calm down and one night when I went in the bedroom to see Cuddles, she was laying on the left dresser and I walked over near her to pet her, at first she licked me on the nose and I rubbed her back for a few minutes and then I said I will be back in a little while and as soon as I started to leave, out of the blue, she attacked me. I never thought she would ever do that. I had to go to the ER. I was thinking she had enough of being in the bedroom and her domaine being invaded from another cat. Everytime I look at a picture of her, I start to cry. I always wonder if she’s thinking about me in heaven and knows how sad I am.

    1. Kim, if I understand you correctly she was put down because she attacked you? And since of course she was upset about being confined and about having that other cat in her territory, and you understand that, it would not be surprising for you to be feeling guilty now. One of the hazards that pet owners face is that pet deaths so often seem to have been to some extent under our control, and we can feel guilty – even if the death was unavoidable – which very much worsens our grief. It’s going to be essential that you forgive yourself! If you will send me a contact through this website, I will send you a PDF of The Fun of Growing Forever. You have got to get over your sense of guilt in this!

      To answer your question, if you and she had a love connection then that connection continues. She is indeed aware of your feelings now. And please be assured that we have seen no instance where an animal that was put down ever has blamed its human companion for the death. Ever! So all is well, dear. Your only task now is to tackle and master your own guilty feelings!

      1. Hi, thanks for the reply. I’m doing a little better today. My email is included in the required area. That’s sweet of you to send me the book. Have a good day!

  47. Hello Roberta,

    This page has been the only thing giving me solace over the last 5 days .

    My 12 year old eqyptian mau was attacked and killed by a dog we were watching when we went out for an hour for our anniversary, came home to the end of everything . I am beside myself with greif and guilt. I keep blaming myself, and I just want to feel like she knows I never would of ever intentionally put her in harms way.

    I guess my question is. Do you think when I communicate out loud she can hear me, and that she knows how incredibly sorry I am.

    I have so many Un answered questions

    1. I’m so sorry, Courtney! What a tragedy, and especially when you blame yourself so much. Yes, your cat (she’s a cat, right?) is fine, and she can hear you and knows that you are sorry and you never would have dreamed of doing her harm. She knows! Whenever we love a companion animal, it develops an independent existence and waits for us there, healthy and happy; and without time, it will feel to her as if you are joining her in mere moments even if fifty years have passed. (I know this all sounds too good to be true, but the evidence is consistent and overwhelming that it IS true!)

      Now your main task is to forgive yourself, for her sake as well as for your own! Please send me a contact through this website and I will send you a PDF of The Fun of Growing Forever, which contains the best forgiveness exercise that I know. It really works! Bless you, dear, and please know that there is peace and joy again beyond this pain, and your dear little friend will be even happier than you are when you finally get there!

  48. I had to euthanized my beloved 15 year dog yesterday in Mexico. I am down here in an RV. I picked him up off the streets of Mexico 14 years ago. I was unable to get him cremated to take his ashes and had to bury him here. He will be 3000 miles from where Iive. I am not a particular believer in afterlives etc, but if there is one, will his spirit follow me home?

    1. Paul, there is indeed an afterlife, and if you would like to know more I would be happy to send you a PDF of my book, The Fun of Dying. Please just request it of me through this website. And wonderfully, where your dog is now there is no time and there is no distance; and the only motivator is love, so if your dog loves you he will be wherever you are! He may even be among those who will eventually appear at your deathbed to greet you with doggie kisses and help to lead you home. So please be at peace about this!

  49. Hi Roberta. I wrote you back in Novemeber, about my Jilly passing away from heart failure. Although it is much easier to bear, I still miss her terribly. My mother and I were out on a visit, and we got to talking about how preious she was and how we both still miss her. But just last night, I had a very vivid dream about her. This is the first time I have had a dream about her since her passing. It was so heart-warming and encouraging. There she was, back with me. And I was even telling others in my dream that she was back, and taking her around to see them all. If only it were true. I don’t have any idea how the dream ended, I just remember her being there, fully alive, and even thinner (I even remarked that she was “healed” and no longer had the fluid noted in her abdomen, she was trim and able to move about in any way she desired). I am surmising that this may have been her telling me it is time to move on, and that she is fine. I also hope she is telling me she loves me and will always be with me. I just wanted to know your thoughts on this. You have no idea how much you have helped me through this grief.

    1. Kathy, that sounds like a communication dream, and if it still seems vivid to you then it certainly was. We all travel out of our bodies during sleep, and you have been meeting and playing with her at night but since your grief continues to be so strong your guides have allowed you to remember a bit of that interaction in an effort to help you move on. I had a communication dream from my horse four nights after his death that still remains vivid for me a decade later! Please consider that dream to be your confirmation that she is healthy and happy now, she loves you, and while your body sleeps you are spending a lot of time with her. She’ll be waiting for you when you also graduate. It really is time for you to move on with your life, knowing that you’ll see her again!

  50. Dear Roberta, I am consumed with grief having lost my sweet (dog) Miyagi in my arms at only 6 years old after being trampled by a horse. She died in my arms trying to race her to an emergency animal clinic. Would you please send me the PDF you mentioned to others (The Fun of Dying)? These posts are helpful to read but I am really having a hard time losing my friend who I loved so incredibly much. I can’t eat, sleep & I can’t stop crying. Thank you for the reassuring responses to everyone, it does help reading them. You are an angel.

    1. I’m so sorry, Therese! I have emailed two books to you in PDF; I hope they’ll help. Do you feel guilty at all about what happened? This sort of intense grief often has a component of feeling guilty that you didn’t avoid the accident. But please be at peace about that! Your Miyagi is fine, healthy and happy and waiting for you. Getting through these first days is always tough, but as your grief begins to lessen I hope that it comforts you to know that she is fine, you will see her again, and she really doesn’t blame you!

      1. Yes Roberta, you are exactly right, I feel terrible that I could not protect her & I wasn’t quick enough to grab her when she pulled away from me. Thank you for your kind words, your fast response & most importantly for being here to help us all through our grieving. I did not know where to turn & I believe fate brought me to your site. Thank you from my heart & soul, I truly appreciate your guidance.

        1. Dear Therese, nearly always such frantic grief is grief plus either guilt or anger (or both). It’s important that you forgive yourself, your dog, the horse, and everyone involved in what happened! Forgive yourself and all of them from the heart. Only then will you be able to heal. She really is fine!!

  51. My orange tabby boy cat Yellow died unexpectedly of a tumor, I am dying of a broken heart ever since. Our bond was unexplainable, he was so submissive to me like a lover or child. Followed me everywhere, slept in my arms. every. single. night. He was like a human.

    He died in my apartment in my arms, I wanted to make sure his spirit is released in my home. We were all each other had, no other pets, no other family members, no roommate. He was cremated. His remains are in my home as well.

    Come to my surprise I haven’t gotten one sign he has visited me, he died 5 months ago. Despite my hopes ill ever be with him again, the lack of awareness he’s with me makes me very cynical about the idea that spirits visit us, await us after death.

    If anything it seems he’s on his next life assignment in the reincarnation process and I may never cross paths with him ever again.

    This realization is very depressing.

    I’ve heard of soul groups and reincarnation occurring after all the souls are joined again. I don’t know what to think anymore.

    What are your thoughts on my viewpoint, circumstance, and awareness?

    1. Dear Nathan, you really owe it to yourself to learn what actually is going on! That would bring you a great deal of comfort now. The evidence overwhelmingly indicates the following:

      1) Human life is eternal. You couldn’t die, sir, even if you wanted to.

      2) Every animal that you ever have loved is waiting for you in the afterlife, now young and healthy and happy. So assuredly, you WILL be reunited with your beloved cat again. They DO NOT return to earth – ever, we think – except that rarely they will reincarnate for a beloved owner. So you WILL see him again. Guaranteed!

      If you would like a PDF of The Fun of Dying, please let me know that through this website!

  52. I just lost my best friend in the entire world. She suffered from hermangiosarcoma and had her heart tapped two times. The other night when she was fighting to breathe we rushed her to the hospital and they put her on oxygen so that my mom could go and get my family members so that we could put her to sleep but I wanted everyone to be there and her feel the love. Unfortunately she passed a few minutes before they came and I feel so guilty and sad that we weren’t right beside her when she took her final breathe.. This pain is unbearable and I miss her a terrible amount. I’m waiting for her to visit me, I need to know that she forgives me and that she’s ok. I took care of her while she was alive and I’m constantly worrying about if she’s being cared for in the afterlife. The thought of her being in the afterlife but still looking back every so often to see if I’ll appear, really makes me sad. I just want my friend back

    1. Oh my dear Tiya, I’m not sure whether your friend is a cat or a dog, but please know that in either case she is perfectly fine, young and healthy, being very well cared for and loved in a group of others of her kind and playing happily while she waits for your arrival. There is no objective time where she is now, so even if you live here for another 100 years it will seem like mere moments for your friend before she turns and sees you calling to her. Really!

      I hear from so many who are in desperate grief over the loss of a pet, and in cases where the grief is as raw as yours there generally seems to be a lot of guilt mixed into it. My hunch is that is part of your problem, and I urge you please to forgive yourself! Our companion animals never blame us for anything – instead, they are always so grateful for the loving care that we gave them. So please stop worrying, forgive yourself, and go on with your life while knowing that you WILL see her again!

  53. I did the unthinkable this past Wednesday morning…I killed my fur buddy Squeaky (a cat) in the driveway on accident backing out. I have never hurt anything like that before in my life…let alone KILL it…and it was my own buddy. 🙁

    Squeaky had overcame a lot of insurmountable odds in her short life time of 5 years or so. She had a lot of trouble with allergies, she nearly died of pneumonia twice, she was infected with the brain parasite toxoplasmosis gondii as a kitten and was nearly killed then. She was damaged from it but she was relatively normal after which. Her sight was off kilter a bit and one eye dilated more than the other periodically as a result of that parasite…and she was beginning to suffer from hip dysplasia…but she fought every time and came out on top.

    She was my doppleganger. She followed me everywhere. She would expect treats and tidbits anytime I ate something. She would hop up for pettings…she would nose my nose…put her down and if she was not ready she came right back up. She had a real idiosyncrasy of NOT moving out of the way of vehicles or people real quick though….was never a problem til Wednesday AM.

    She had been out and I gave her her pettings and I started to back out and felt a small thump and next thing I know I saw her dart out from under the truck quickly with a limp and dart for the porch. I slam on the brakes and run over (as much as I can I am super heavy) and found her fallen over on her side already…she had already urinated and she was laying there writhing and trying to breathe…and not able…she had such a scared look on her and there was nothing I could do…all I could do is stroke her fur until she slipped into unconsciousness…I was coming apart…I felt/feel like the most worthless bastard on the planet….I just killed my buddy. Then I found something to wrap her up in and buried her over near the last cat I lost.

    That image is burned into my head…I don’t know I will ever forgive myself for killing such a sweet little soul…she had her problems but she wanted to live as much as anyone or anything…I just pray that she is okay now…there with the others that came before her and that she understands I did NOT do that to her deliberately…I would have give my leg before I ever hurt a hair on her….it was a horrific accident….but accident or not I have it to live with now.

    Do you think she understands I never meant to hurt her…let alone kill her?

    1. Dear Rich, please know that your cat is fine, and of course she doesn’t blame you! I understand that it’s hard to lose a furry friend, and when we feel responsible for the pet’s death then we can find it almost impossible to let go of the self-blame so it’s very important that you work on forgiving yourself. You might try the exercises in The Fun of Growing Forever: if you need the book, simply contact me through this website and I will send it to you in PDF. Meanwhile, though, please be comforted to know that Squeaky is fine now and she loves you and doesn’t blame you!

  54. Hello,

    My dog passed away not too long ago. Soon I will be leaving a place we called home for the past year and a half. My question is do you think my dog will be able to find me in my new location? I am afraid to move away in case her spirit is still with me. I just hope she can come with me. Thank you.

    1. This is a great question, Colleen! In fact, where your dog is now there is no space or time, and love is the only law; so of course she can find you wherever you are. Please don’t worry about that, and know that just your thinking about her will likely put her right there with you, wherever you are!

  55. Dear Roberta
    I am consumed with grief for my gorgeous French Bulldog, Noodle who I had to have put to sleep 2 days ago. He had a lot of health problems in his 10 years but had been the best he’d ever been over the past year. Last Sunday he was chasing his ball and crashed head first into a wooden bench. The vet could find no problem but 2 days later he went blind and the vet said there was a huge build up of fluid behind his eyes and she didn’t think it could be rectified. As he was already stone deaf and only had one eye I didn’t think it was fair to keep him. I am distraught as I live alone and feel so empty. I do walk and board other people’s dogs but I can’t go through this pain again so don’t want another. I am an atheist though I do believe in spirits and would feel so much better if Noodle gave me a sign but I’m not sure it will happen.

    1. Dear Linda, you gave your little friend such a gift! He wasn’t happy in such a defective body, and now he is gloriously free, healthy and happy and playing with other dogs in a beautiful place while he waits for you. His wait won’t even feel long to him, because there is no time there! It doesn’t matter whether you are an atheist, since frankly the judgmental and human-like God that Christians preach doesn’t actually exist; but Noodle is fine now, and much happier. That is certain. It is likely that your grief is so extreme that it will block his being able to give you signs, so please concentrate on forgiving yourself for giving him the gift of his freedom, and as you feel better the signs may well come!

      1. Dear Roberta, thank you so much for your prompt reply, I immediately bought 3 of your books and I can’t tell you how much better I’m feeling after reading 2 of them. The Fun of Dying answers so many questions. When I cry for Noodle now it’s because I miss his company but inside I am so happy he is well again and can see and hear. I am now going to read the third book and I suspect I shall be reading all 3 over and over, thank you for giving me such an insight to what lies ahead.

        1. Dear Linda, you ought to thank Noodle! He knew that you needed to read my books, and he led you here. He loves you very much! If you ever have questions, of course, don’t hesitate to contact me through this website.

          1. Dear Roberta,
            I just wanted to let you know that on Saturday I was travelling on the underground (tube) with my daughter and an orange and white butterfly was flying round us and even landed on my daughters leg and my seat! I have lived in London all my life and have never before seen a butterfly on an underground train. Maybe it was a sign from Noodle, I like to think so. I have read all 3 books and take great comfort from them, especially The Fun of Dying. I do have a problem with the concept of total forgiveness ( The Fun of Growing Forever). When you see evil people beheading , burning people alive and making slaves of young girls or torturing animals, how is it possible to feel forgiveness? I can see that in the bigger picture it may be the right thing to do but I just feel hatred for these people! Maybe when I pass over it will come naturally to me, I hope so as I don’t want anything to get in the way of my wonderful reunion with all my dogs and family! Thank you again for giving me hope with your books, Linda.

  56. I just lost my sweetgirl “Sweetie” on Sunday July 2, 2017. I was giving her heart medicine and she died in my arms closed to my heart. Although, information states that heart attacks are rare in dogs, I believe this is what happened. My heart is broken. She fought hard to stay with me, I know this!
    She had a spell a week before where I thought she was dead and then she came back. At the time I couldn’t hear a heart beat. I in the health care field so I know how to assess these vital signs. I think Sweetie died and come back for a few more days, then she left abruptly. I noticed a few days before she died she cried with tears, crocodile size tears dripping. I had never seen this before. Information can be found that dogs don’t cry. Hogwash, she was crying and I now know why. She knew from the first episode that she was going to leave me. I am having a difficult time of it. I have had ADCs before and wish that she could send a sign to me.

    1. Dear Sheri, she may have been crying about your sadness, but in truth she was eager to go home! Repeatedly, dogs that communicate say this to us. Once they arrive there, they have healthy young bodies and they get to play with other dogs all day long! She is waiting there for you, and the time that passes won’t even feel long to her since there is no objective time. As your grief lessens, you may well get signs, so watch for them – my own dearest animal friend was a horse, and he came to me in a dream. You can’t know what Sweetie might do, so be vigilant!

  57. I lost my beautiful doggie on 25th Feb this year. She was 13 when she passed and there hasn’t been a day since I lost her that I haven’t cried. My husband couldn’t bear the emptiness in our home so we have recently rescued another doggie who is beautiful and has had a really awful start in life. She’s lovely and has filled the void in my husbands life but I just can’t move on. I miss Kita so much and can’t bring myself to bond with our new dog, Honey. I feel terrible feeling this way but I just want my girl and nothing else. I feel sadder now than when I lost my mum 15 years ago 😭

    1. Dear Sue, please understand first of all that your dog is fine and healthy and is waiting for you in a beautiful place where she gets to play with other dogs and is well cared for and loved. You will see and play with her again soon!

      Please know, too, that when grief for a pet is as intense as yours is, nearly always it is complicated by feelings of guilt. I suspect that this is your case, too. Most often people fret that they shouldn’t have put the pet down, or that they should have done it sooner; or they are anguished that they didn’t notice signs of illness sooner, or that they weren’t there when the pet died or that they did or didn’t do some other thing. Please know, dear, that in all these years I have never heard of a case where a pet who has died has communicated anything but profound love and gratitude! Your dog DOES NOT blame you for whatever you believe you did wrong, and her only wish is that you will stop blaming yourself and go on to love this new dog, too!

    1. Hello Chel! Yes, sometimes less traditional kinds of pets will communicate. Whenever there is a love connection, communication can happen easily. One of my own two communication dreams was a wonderful visit from my treasured horse!

  58. My cat that was only four years old died suddenly one week ago today. I have cried everyday since, and it only seems to be getting worse. I miss her so much! She stayed outside, but I brought her in a lot. I’m not sure what happened to her, and no vets nearby were open since it was the weekend. I have other cats, but she was my favorite of all time. What can I do to feel better?

    1. I’m sorry for your loss! Please understand that your cat is fine and will be waiting for you when you transition – that is the glorious truth about our love-relationship with our furry friends. Generally when people are as stricken as you are, there is an overlay of either guilt or anger. In your case, since you so quickly say that she was an outdoor cat but “I brought her in a lot,” I think you are feeling guilty about the fact that it may well have been something that she encountered outside that killed her. And this is actually likely to be true. But for you to blame yourself is useless at this point! Cats love to be outdoors – we say about our own cat that “she wants to take her life into her own paws,” and we let her do that. All that you need to do, dear, is to forgive yourself and your little friend that you gave her what she most wanted, and it ended up shortening her life. Forgive both of you! Unless you do that, you won’t be able to move on, and that is the last thing that she would have wanted.

  59. Thank you! I miss her so much! I will never ever forget her. I will try my best to take care of my other pets. Do you think she can see me? I hope to see her again someday.

    1. And to make matters worse, I feel guilty. I didn’t bring her in for the past few months because I’ve been busy doing different things. If I had known she wasn’t going to live, I would have spent every second I could with her. The last time I saw her before she died, she rolled over so I could rub her belly and I did. That makes me happy I did that.

      1. I knew it! Your problem is this guilt, most of all – it isn’t simply grief. You’ve got to forgive yourself now, or you might never get over feeling so terrible! My book, The Fun of Growing Forever, has a great forgiveness exercise – I urge you to read it and strictly follow that exercise – it works!!

  60. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, and I know my cat wouldn’t want me to worry about her. I feel better than I did. I just hope she knew how much I loved her. Hopefully I will see her again someday.

  61. I hope so much to see all of my old pets again. We just lost a cat last week and I can’t stop thinking about him. Wishing I could give him a hug one last time. Thanks for the hope.

    1. David, every pet that you ever have loved will be waiting there, now young and healthy. Don’t even worry about it! Your only problem will be that they all will want to greet you at once, and you will have trouble getting hugs from people until after you have petted and hugged all the animals ;-).

  62. Roberta, I have been feeling so bad lately ever since my cat got sick and died. I love/d her so much, and it is so heartbreaking that she is no longer here. Do you really believe she is in Heaven, and if so do you think she knows how much I love and miss her? I had a dream about her last night…

    1. Saige, she is fine! And she loves you, and she knows that you love her. If your dream of her felt vivid and remained with you beyond lunchtime, then it may well have been a communication dream from her… those dreams tend to remain with us and they don’t fade. But whether or not it was a communication, please be comforted to know that you will be with her again!

  63. Dear Roberta. We put our 14.5 year old border collie, Diggety, down yesterday. It is terrible loss for all of us. He was old, in pain, losing his hind legs, and suffering. We gave him a wonderful send off yesterday and all 4 of us were in the room for his passing. It is very sad and we are all heart broken. Last night, my 11 year old daughter comes into my room around 2 a.m. crying hysterically. She said she had a nightmare. We let her sleep in our room. I asked her when we woke up what her dream was about. She said that it wasn’t a dream. She woke up in the middle of the night to fix her pillows. She rolled over and saw our dog sleeping next to her. She said he had shiny, silky fur and he looked beautiful. She reached over to pet him and then she saw a flash of light, like a car’s headlight, and then he disappeared. She got scared and came to our room. I told her she was the luckiest person in the world because he came to tell her that he is OK. This is the most beautiful thing I have ever heard. Can pets come back this fast to let us know they are OK? His passing is less than 24 hours. Is the transition that quick? This dog was truly a wonderful pet and he never liked seeing us upset. I am hoping he is happy and feeling at peace.

    1. What a terrific sign! The shiny fur is telling, since whenever pets do this – it seems to be just dogs, and it’s rare – they glow with light. The flash of spiritual light as it ends tends to be visible only in darkness or near-darkness. That was absolutely a visit from Diggety, he is fine, and your daughter is blessed indeed!

  64. My cat had four kittens. She leaves them sometimes but always comes back several times a day for them to get milk. I have been trying to help each of them while she is gone, but one of them unfortunately died today. He was the runt of the litter. I feel terrible about it because I didn’t really do much for it today! The cat tried to help it too, but it was too late. Do you think it is in Heaven now and I will get to see it again?

    1. Meg, often the runt of a litter will die so you must not blame yourself for its death! The way your cat has been behaving is the way she would behave in the wild: going out to hunt, and coming back to nurse. What if you hadn’t been there at all? The kitten would have died just the same! And that would not have been your fault, either. Please forgive yourself – nothing whatsoever about this is your fault!

  65. All of these comments and entries are regarding accidents and health issues. I am struggling more that I could have ever imagined because I had to put my dog down on Monday for aggressive tendencies. She was the most loyal and loving dog to me. She did not like most other dogs and definitely did not like strangers. She appeared to be on guard and nervous all the time. She attacked numerous puppies that had been brought into the home. I put her on medication and even brought in a trainer. I kept making excuses for her behavior but finally decided for the safety of others to put her down. I have never loved a dog so much and can’t get past the grief of taking her life. I feel I need to know that she isn’t mad or feeling abandoned.

    1. Theresa, she isn’t angry and she doesn’t feel abandoned! What you did for her was to release her from a life that can’t have been much fun for her, always being stressed and fearful and feeling the displeasure of humans when she didn’t really understand why, and I’m sure she is grateful for that. What you’ve got to do is forgive yourself!! Most of what you think is grief right now is really severe guilt and self-blame, and until you can get beyond it you won’t be able to get past feeling terrible about this. You did the right thing, for her and for everyone! And once you have forgiven yourself you will be able to send her the love and forgiveness that she really needs to feel from you now. Think of her with love, and when you see her again she will be past all these issues and you two will be able to enjoy one another forevermore!!

  66. I have lost one of my special friends. My cat had three kittens, and unfortunately there were no survivors. She struggled so much. I tried to help her the best I could. I really hate it about my cat. She was so special to me, and I miss her so much! I know I should have gotten her fixed, but I didn’t think she would get pregnant so soon. All I can do is hope that she is with her little kittens now while waiting on me.

    1. Misty, your little friend is just fine. What you’ve got to do is forgive yourself – you are blaming yourself for not getting her fixed, and you must forgive yourself for that. Grief for a pet generally eases within months, but when it is complicated by anger or grief it can go on indefinitely! Please, please don’t do that to yourself. Forgive yourself, send her your love, know for a certainty that you will see her again, and go on to have other cats and kittens. The beauty of the love that we have for our animals is that it will infinitely stretch. You can love as many as you like in this lifetime, and all of them will be there to welcome you home!

  67. I just had my precious poodle put to sleep less than an hour ago. I will miss her dearly, but thanks to Roberta’s blog and books and all of you I was prepared to ask for and notice the many signs that were sent to assure me she is happy running around in Summerland. As we were burying her and arrow made from cloudsappeared in the sky above her grave…pointing upward of course. My last few days have been filled with meaningful signs in songs. Last night I was flipping through channels trying to occupy my mind and on E news of all places the reported that the Pope had told a young boy that he would see his dog in heaven. It caught my attention bc many Catholics believe that animals don’t go to heaven. I googled this happening so I could read the whole story and it seems that it happened way back in 2012 or 2014 based on the articles I found. I can hardly believe E news would be reporting this on that particular day so many years later. Thank you Roberta and everyone who has loved an animal as much as I have and believes that they are part of us forever!!!!

    1. Hello, and please be comforted – all is well! I’m delighted that you are already getting signs, and hearing that even the Pope is recognizing now that our beloved animals will be greeting us when we go home is wonderful. Your dog is young and happy and healthy now, and while she waits for you she is having lots of fun!

  68. Am reading this just for reassurance after our beloved German Shepherd suddenly died of a ruptured spleen/internal bleeding on Saturday. The day is full of reminders that he is no longer with us. Very depressing. But am confident that we will meet again under the circumstances you describe. I just wish the pain of his departure was not so great.

    1. Dear CPH, your attitude is wonderful, and indeed it is going to be such bliss when you see him again! Grief is a natural process, and unless it is complicated by either anger or guilt the worst of it generally passes within months. Please forgive yourself for anything you think that you might have done wrong in your dog’s life, knowing that he doesn’t blame you at all and he continues to completely love you. Truly, you will be together again!

  69. Roberta, what can I do to feel better? I found a kitten by himself six weeks ago today. I have a cat that recently had kittens, so she let him nurse her. I thought everything was going so well. A few days ago, I noticed he was a little skinnier, but not too skinny. I made sure he got food, water, and milk. Unfortunately, I found him dead this morning. I am so sad! I love him so much! Do you truly believe animals get to go to Heaven and that I may get to see him again?

    1. The kitten is fine! It is likely that he had a congenital issue, which was why his mother abandoned him. But every animal that we ever have loved is safe, young and healthy in a beautiful place where they are all receiving loving care, so please don’t worry about your little friend at all. What you must do is to forgive yourself; that is generally the worst aspect of the grief that we feel when an animal dies. Please understand that there was nothing whatsoever that you could have done to save him, and rejoice in knowing that he is fine and indeed you will be together again in a beautiful greater reality where love never ends!

  70. Roberta, I have been so devastated! My cat had six kittens. They are all so healthy and beautiful, but one got up in the golf cart and unfortunately got killed two days ago. The cat had moved them two days before, but I brought them back. I can’t help but feel that I mad a really bad mistake. I have cried ever since because I could’ve looked up in the golf cart or I could’ve just left them alone where the cat moved them to. All I can do is think about what I did wrong. I also don’t have any pictures of her, so that is making me sad too. I can only hope that one day I will get to see her again, as well as all my other pets.

    1. Mina, you MUST forgive yourself! You could not have known that your moving the kittens would cause a problem, and everything that you did in this was loving so you absolutely are not at fault at all! Yes, you will again see all the animals you ever have loved; don’t fret about that. Please be at peace, dear! Nothing that happened in this was your fault at. Meanwhile, I’m sending you a hug!

  71. Thanks for all your knowledge and comments, Im so sad, I had to put to sleep my poor Max 3 days ago, a black Cat of 20 years old, he has been with us since then, he had a kidney faillure and I never expected he would die so soon, he got so sick in only one week, but he was suffering, couldnt walk or eat, so there was no other choice, but it hurted me so much to do that, I wanted to leave that decision to God and only to God, but it was impossible and I feel kind a guilty for that. We have not received any sign how I wish I could dream of him and see him jumping and playing, healthy and beautiful as he was , why I cant dream of him ? will he be mad at me for putting him to sleep? God knows I loved him so much and I am suffering a lot for the loss……… 🙁

    1. Oh Sonia, please don’t blame yourself for doing the right thing for your little friend! When we hear from euthanized pets, they ALWAYS thank us for releasing them; I have never heard of a case where the animal was not grateful for the gift of being freed from that damaged body. And Max is right now young, happy, healthy, and waiting for you in a beautiful home with other cats also waiting for their people to arrive. You will be with him again, and meanwhile he is being lovingly cared for and having a wonderful time!!

      1. Thanks so much for your answer Roberta, I sincerely hope he can communicate with me soon, so my heart feels much better ¡¡¡ your words healed my heart a lot……..

  72. Roberta, thank you!

    Just over 2 months ago I lost my princess, Tiny, and 1 month after we released her from the pain, my prince, Tank, was diagnosed with the same cancer. I know the outcome is imminent and am a mess. Tiny broke my heart and any ounce that was left is shattered by Tank being sick and having to go through it all again when I didn’t get a chance to mourn Tiny. They are my life and soulmates and I am struggling with the loss of Tiny and soon Tank. I just want to be reunited with them. That’s all I have to hope for. I don’t want to wait 50 odd years for it. I need to know it is 150% guaranteed they will be there, waiting for us to all go home together again for all of eternity. You have no idea how much your words and sureties are comforting me.

    1. Dear Bellamy, I have been doing afterlife research for half a century. Everything I am telling you is as real as the sun and the stars are real! Indeed, the evidence for survival of our companion animals is so solid that it is one of the things of which we are most certain. Every animal that a human being ever has loved is waiting for us when we transition, now young and healthy and overjoyed to see us again! So please give Tank the gift of his release from pain, just as you did for Tiny. He will be very grateful to you – I promise you that!

      This early goodbye is a part of the deal that we make when we take a dog or cat into our lives (or – as in my case – even a horse). It is a primary reason why I haven’t ha a companion animal of any kind in more than a decade: I have had quite enough of the pain of losing beloved pets for this lifetime! But never fear for a moment: all your little friends are fine.

      1. Thank you Roberta, we reunited Tank with Tiny today. Our hearts are shattered…I could tell he was ready. No matter how much time passed, I’d have never been ready.

        Now I look forward to being reunited with them both and taking them home one last time, yet for eternity. I love them with my whole life and being. I just pray they know how much we adore them and that we assisted in their transition with only their best intentions in our heart. Not us be selfish and keep them here in pain just so they could fight to survive to please us and keep us happy when them being in pain doesn’t make us happy.

        1. They can feel your love, of course, and they are grateful to you for letting them go home! Be comforted to know that they are young and happy now, and where they are there is no time so it will likely seem to them that only moments will have passed before they are welcoming you with puppy-kisses!

  73. I just found this site, my heart goes out to everyone experiencing the loss if a companion. Thank you for taking the time to kindly address everyone, Roberta.

    I lost my cat Arthas, the love of my life, just 2 days ago due to kidney stones. My sister & I had him since he was 3 months old, & he was only about 5 & 1/2, still very young. I feel I cannot function, I feel like I can’t go on. He was my everything, the life of the whole house, & I keep seeking some type of solace & so badly need him to know we love him more than anything, that he was our world.

    I couldn’t be in the room when he was put down. My sister could barely muster the strength to, but she did it for him as she did it for him as we were determined he wouldn’t be alone. She said he looked up at her as she held his head, & locked eyes, then just faded away a few seconds after he was injected. She can’t stop feeling guilty & blaming herself for his last day being painful.

    We will be bringing his ashes home in about a week, I’m hoping I’m lucky enough to receive a visit from him. I don’t know if people are told they’re okay & we’ll see them again purely for our own comfort, or if it’s really true, but I need to believe more than anything that it is.

    Thank you for reading this.

    1. Dear Norah, I am vastly cynical, and more so than ever since afterlife researchers have found parts of a gigantic truth and the last thing that we ever would do would be to muck that up with wishful thinking! One of the things of which we are most certain – because those that we used to think were dead so frequently mention it – is that EVERY ANIMAL WE EVER HAVE LOVED IS WAITING FOR US WHEN WE TRANSITION, NOW YOUNG AND HEALTHY. Every one of them! So people who have loved a lot of pets will be literally mobbed when they arrive, and that is something that their human loved ones will sometimes crank about – that they can’t get through all the dogs and cats to finally hug their returning loved one ;-).

      I am sorry for your pain, but please absolutely banish any thought you might have that a cat who was so much loved on earth is dead. She is not! And if you can manage to tamp down your pain enough – please forgive yourself! – then she will try to give you signs of her survival. Just keep sending her love, give yourself the gift of forgiveness and peace, and keep your eyes wide open!

  74. My friend Carsen died Sept 29 2017 early in the morning hours has I slept. I feel terrible guilt for not waking for him. His 12th birthday would have been on halloween. I adopted him from the Omaha humane society when he was 2 months old. Carsen was a beautiful soul, a beautiful Tricolor Sheltie. He and I have had our share of hard times, and without him I’m not sure where I would be. Carsen and I were very tight, he went everywhere with me. I am still in so much pain for his loss and pray that he is ok and being taken care of. A few days after he passed I was sitting in front of my computer and I was nodding off cause it was 12:24 am. Suddenly I heard Boo bark by the front door like he has done so many times before and I said outloud “just a second boy”. Realizing that Carsen was gone I lifted my head and he barked again, very loud. I turned and looked at the door and I saw Carsen walk from the door to the place on the carpet where he died. He looked strong and young, it was a blackened image not of his body when he was alive. But I could tell it was Boo. Then on November 18th, I could here noises in the kitchen and I grabbed my camera and took two pictures about 5 seconds apart. The first picture showed 5 orbs floating about and a large orange glowing mist on the floor. The second picture, all were gone. I remember on a late afternoon laying down on the bed sideways with my legs hanging halfway off, and I could feel Carsen walk under my shins, actually lifting my legs. I knew it was him I could feel his back and shape.
    Now I don’t know if I am going insane losing my mind cuz i miss him so. I do keep my camera close by from now on. So much pain and guilt comsume me. I took Carsen to the vet at least once every 2 months whether he was sick or not. He was diagnosed with an enlarged heart and given enalipril, which was causing him to have seizures. The vet said no, so i took him to another vet and she didn’t think so either and suggested i take him to Colorado state university in Fort Collins, CO. Which I did and we saw a cardiologist. She said he didn’t have an enlarged heart but heart valve degeneration and that it wasn’t bad enough to have to be on medicine. So I stopped the meds and the seizures stopped and Carsen died 3 months later. So who to believe, can’t trust vets, I feel I done Carsen wrong. Thanks for listening, sorry I am so windy.

    1. Dear Don, yours is the classic problem of every one of us who loves a furry friend! You are likely to live at least 80 years, but the most a dog can manage is maybe 15. I have a friend who calls puppies “pain in a fur wrapper.” We know when we adopt the pup that our time together will be brief!

      There is no earthly way that you could have prolonged his life, or that a hundred veterinarians working together could have prolonged his life, and you know in your heart that you did every human thing that you could do for him; but nearly all of us, when we lose a beloved pet, feel considerable guilt about not having saved them. Surely there was something more we could have done! But of course, thinking that way is irrational, Don. I’m sure you know that. You did everything that you could have done!

      You were blessed with the gift of a truly beautiful soul, and now that he has gone on ahead he is so concerned about you that he has been giving you some really spectacular signs! His life was a gift, and those signs are a gift. Please be comforted now, knowing that your little Carsen is young and healthy again and is patiently waiting for you in a beautiful place where love never ends.

      1. Thank you Roberta, I hope to end my guilt one day. I wonder why Carsen did not come to me when he appeared that night. I am either out of my mind or I did see what i saw. But why wouldn’t he walk to me? He barked twice, very loud, to get my attention but didn’t walk to me. I find that odd, because I know he loved me just as much as I love him. So why?

        1. Don, he was not in his material body! I have never heard of an animal in spirit who ever approached a material owner. His body is there to be seen but never touched! Please just be joyous that you saw him, and you know that he is fine!!

  75. I know what i saw, He looked so strong and he had his tail up high. I don;t drink and i wasn’t asleep. so i try to accept that i am not nuts. Do you think he is being treated ok? I spent 12 years of Carsen being the first thing i thought of when I awoke and the last thing when we went to sleep. I have to know he is ok and not being hurt.

    1. HE IS FINE! He is living in a group home, young and healthy and cared for by people who love him and playing with his wonderful doggy friends! Best of all, where he is now there is no time, so it will seem to him to be only moments before you show up – having died at 97 – and take him home with you forevermore!

    1. Don, you could not possibly upset me. But you can do something very important for me now: you can forgive yourself! That’s the only gift that you can give to Carsen, and it’s the reason he took the trouble to give you post-death signs. Please, please forgive yourself!!

  76. Roberta,
    I have been feeling so down lately just remembering my favorite cat who died 4 months ago. She was only 4 years old. I feel like I didn’t get to spend enough time with her. I don’t know what to do. I haven’t gotten any sign from her even though we loved each other very much. Sometimes, though, I see her face in some of my other cats. I wish I could’ve gotten her to a vet because they probably could’ve saved her, but none were open that day and I didn’t know she was so sick beforehand since she was missing the two days before.

    1. Kelly, your primary problem is the guilt that you feel surrounding her death. Your guilt is a useless burden now, and your little friend really is fine!! Please forgive yourself, and know that she continues to love you, she does not blame you, and she will be waiting for you when your turn comes. You MUST forgive yourself, or you never will feel any better and that is the last thing that your little friend would want!

  77. I googled dogs and the after life and your article popped up. We had to put our beloved Spanky down just last week after a long battle with Cushings disease. Even knowing it was the right decision, I miss him terribly. 😪 We opted to have him cremated and yesterday morning early I thought I heard him yelp. He had been doing that to let us know he needed to go out. Later in the day I received a call from the pet crematory. It made me feel sad but comforted to know my dog was sending me a signal that he is okay. Thank you so much.💔

    1. Heh – April, Google has sent many people to this blog post, and I’m glad that it sent you here as well! I’m so glad that you had that little sign from him, dear, and please know that he is very grateful indeed that you freed him from that body that no longer served him so he can be young and healthy again!

  78. Hi, I’m sorry to bother you, my wife and i have just put our 17 year old jack russell ‘Peanut’ to sleep yesterday, his poor little body was shutting down, 5 years earlier we had to put our lab ‘Nugget’ to sleep (bone cancer in her nose) peanut and nugget were the best of friends. I’m hoping you tell me if they’re okay? do they miss us? Did Nugget await Peanut when he crossed over? I can imagine you get many requests and i hope you can find it in your heart to reply to this long-winded request. Thank you from Troy, Sheri, Teggun (peanuts 5 year old lab sis) and Kinder (peanuts 4 year old kelpie sis)
    I miss him so much.

    1. Troy, please know that everyone is fine! I am not a pet-communicator, but I can assure you that the evidence of what happens at and after the death of a pet is abundant and absolutely consistent: every animal that we ever have loved transitions easily, and is now young and healthy and waiting for us in a beautiful, earth-like place, being cared for until we come to pick it up. It is very likely that your lab and your Jack Russell greeted one another, since their energies would be similar; but in any event, pets seem not to have a sense of time in the afterlife so it will seem to each of your animals that they have only just arrived when you come for them, even if it’s after a very long earth-life!

  79. Thank you so much.
    We really appreciate it.
    You have really put our minds at ease. Do you know if they have visited us?
    Thanks again

    1. I’m not surprised that they have visited! Your family should them in your hearts, dear Troy, until the moment when you will again hold them in your arms!

  80. Roberta,

    You are an amazing human being. I just stumbled upon your website and can´t wait to read more. I read about NDE’s for over a decade but only now i’m searching for specific cases involving pets. We just lost our beloved 15y.o. Lhasa, and the pain and the emptiness are almost unbearable. He was special beyond words. This article alongside similar others i’ve found are really heart-warming, leaving me with no doubt that we will one day reunite. Keep up your good work of bringing this good news to everyone who lose their little special friends.

    1. Thank you for your kindly words, Russell! Just know that your little friend is fine, and you soon will be together again. The news really is all good, and all beautiful!

  81. Greetings;
    I just want to share my experience. I had to put down my 15.5 year old Pom; his name was Buddy. I said goodbye on Oct 21st. Had him since he was 3 months. Heartache is putting it lightly! I had to seek therapy to process the grief.
    The day after I said goodbye; Hugo (my other little dog) and I went to a park where we all used to walk. We have been walking this park for years. It was late in the evening…getting dark. Suddenly out of nowhere I got a scent of flowers; strong scent. I looked around thinking there may be a lady around wearing perfume…nothing! Again; we have walked this park for years; there are no flowers around or any trees that would give off scents. I know that I know with all my heart that was Buddy’s way of letting me know he was around. The next day Hugo did not want to sleep on the bed with me. They used to both sleep on the bed with me. Hugo slept on the floor next to my bed…I of course could not sleep so I was wide awake. Hugo suddenly jumped and looked around as if something startled him. I believe it was Buddy again visiting. I had Buddy cremated and a few weeks after I went to my backyard to bury the little ash box. I never wanted to cremate but my sister talked me into it. When I went to the backyard..just me and Hugo…there where lots of feathers in the spot where we were going to bury the ashes. At the time it didn’t mean much to me but then I read about feathers. Just wanted to share this with you. I believe with all my heart they live on and they visit. Love never dies!!!!!!!!!

    Olga

    1. AMEN, Olga! You are fortunate that you are getting such wonderful signs, but the key is that you are open to receiving them. It is likely that every loved animal tries to send some sort of sign, but too many people simply dismiss these signs as coincidences. Thank you for sharing your story with us!

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